Intuition, Wisdom, Good Judgment, and the Third Eye Chakra

Hello beautiful people and welcome to your weekly dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. We are almost at the end of our journey through the chakras. In our last conversation on this topic, we talked about the throat chakra, the first of the higher chakras. Now we move on to what is known as the Ajna, or the Third Eye Chakra. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/ifeyZCcBMF8

Have you ever just had a feeling about something? Maybe it was so strong that you simply could not ignore it. Later you realized that it saved you from something—an accident or something more. Or have you ever thought about someone—maybe you hadn’t spoken to them in a while, and then they called you? This is the power of intuition, and it is the power of the third eye.

In Paulo Coelho’s book, “Valkyries,” he tells the story of a young man who was saved from a bad accident by his intuition, and a delay. Whenever he is being held up or delayed, he thanks his angel for whatever they are trying to do, and relaxes into a place of patience. Whenever I am listening to my intuitive voice, I express gratitude for whatever life is either trying to expel from my life, or bring into my life.

There are so many things that could be said about the third eye chakra, and so many directions that we could take. This is definitely one that I highly encourage doing more research, and figuring out what works best for you. I want to approach this chakra from a place of showing how it has manifested in my life as a reminder of the power of intuition and the wisdom that comes with life experience. Life is truly to be lived, and in the process of living, we will have a variety of experiences. Some of these experiences will be good, and some we might perceive as not good (hindsight might show otherwise in some cases), but they will all teach us something. They will soak into the very fiber of our being, rest in our souls and say, no you burned yourself there before, don’t touch it again, or they will say, yes that is a path that you can trust.

In another book of his that I love, “Warrior of Light,” Paulo Coelho says, “The warrior of light knows the importance of intuition. In the midst of battle, he does not have time to think of the enemy’s blows, and so he uses his instinct and obeys his angel. People say, He’s mad. Or, He lives in a fantasy world. Or even, How can he possibly believe in such illogical things? But the warrior knows that intuition is God’s alphabet and he continues listening to the wind and talking to the stars.” Listening to the wind and talking to the stars have never led me astray.

The type of knowing and wisdom associated with the third eye chakra really comes from having experiences. The very dictionary definition of wisdom is, “the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment.” Another definition says, “the soundness of an action or decision with regard to the application of experience, knowledge, and good judgment.” 

We live in a world that generally praises good judgment, but have you ever wondered what are the elements of good judgment? An article from the Harvard Business Review called “The Elements of Good Judgment” by Sir Andrew Likierman quoted authors Noel Tichy and Warren Benis who wrote, “Judgment: How Winning Leaders Make Great Calls.” They said, “judgment is the ability to combine personal qualities with relevant knowledge and experience to form opinions and make decisions,” this is “the core of exemplary leadership…it is what enables a sound choice in the absence of clear-cut, relevant data, or an obvious path.” After numerous discussions with many different kinds of leaders, Likierman stated that good judgment has six components. “Learning, trust, experience, detachment, options, and delivery.”

He mentioned that leaders with good judgment tend to be good listeners and good readers (cue the throat chakra). They trust. They seek diversity and not validation (Cue the sacral and solar plexus chakras). These leaders draw on the skills and experiences of others as well as their own. These leaders had people around them who tell them what they need to know more rather than what they want to hear. In looking at their experience, good leaders assess how well they draw on their own experiences to make decision. They see where things went well and where it did not go well, so that they might make a different decision in the future on things that did not go well. They also worked to expand their experience and gain more exposure. Another factor was that they were able to detach both intellectually and emotionally, while also addressing their own biases. They also create options, and are not afraid to consider radical options. And finally, they factor in the feasibility of execution. They know the risks, and have a good sense of who can deliver. I don’t think these qualities are limited to the traditional notion of leaders in let’s say a business sense. I think these are factors that we all can also employ in our own lives. This is where the Ajna or the third eye comes in.

Embedded in this conversation, is also a larger conversation about trust, intuition, and essentially the sixth sense that we all have. Dean Koontz said, “Intuition is seeing with the soul.” I have found in my own life that it is imperative that I learn how to acknowledge the difference between fear and my gut warning me about something, and to learn how to develop a relationship with my intuition and to trust it. Sometimes we have to see with the soul. There have been times when I noticed red flags about either a person or a situation, I could feel it in my body, and I could tell from all the signs that I was getting, but yet, I did not listen. These are the times in my life when I have felt the most pain. Sometimes we wander into an illusion, and we want things to be one way so we refuse to see it as anything but that. The third eye wants us to see beyond illusion and fantasy.

In his book, “The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect us from Violence,” Gavin de Becker said, “Intuition is always right in at least two important ways; it is always in response to something [and] it always has your best interest at heart.” We generally experience the world through our five senses, but I do think that intuition and just that sense of knowing is an important sixth sense, and one that is deserving of our full attention. 

Clarissa Pinkola Estes said, “Practice listening to your intuition, your inner voice; ask questions, be curious, see what you see, hear what you hear, and then act upon what you know to be true. These intuitive powers were given to your soul at birth.”

So it would seem that since birth, we have “known.” The question is whether we will snuff out our ability to hear what our soul is trying to tell us. Like most things, developing a relationship with our inner knowing and our intuition requires practice. If we don’t use it, we can lose the ability to discern what our gut is telling us. 

The word “Ajna” actually means “to perceive,” “to know,” and “to control.” The sixth chakra or the “third eye” chakra is also called the “brow chakra” because of its location in the center of the forehead between the eyebrows. There is also an association with the pineal gland, the small endocrine gland which produces melatonin and regulates the circadian cycles. Renee Descartes called it the “seat of the soul.” You may have noticed that in Hinduism, vermillion is applied as to make a bindi that shows reverence for this chakra. It is also said to represent the subconscious mind, and while our other two eyes see the physical world, the third eye can reveal insights about the past and the future. Liz Simpson says that, “the non-physical nature of this charka is represented by Light. In the physical sense, light hits the eyes and is translated into images. In the realm of the esoteric, intuition is like a light coming on in the brain and may be represented by an internal image. These are our eureka moments.” These are our hunches, the déjà vu feelings, the things that we just know but cannot rationalize. Albert Einstein said, “I believe in intuitions and inspirations…I sometimes FEEL that I am right. I do not KNOW that I am.”

I learned from Mr. Rishi that, the Ajna chakra governs your intuition, self-reflection, visualization, and discretion. Blockages or imbalances can cause rigidity, perfectionism, authoritarianism, arrogance, an undisciplined nature, fear of success, an indulgence in fantasy and illusion, a tendency towards schizophrenia, lack of clarity, an inability to establish a vision for themselves and their life, low expectations, and may also manifest as physical ailments such as headaches, nightmares, sinus, dizziness, and vision problems. Once the third eye is opened and balanced, the individual become more intuitive, an excellent decision maker, charismatic, highly intuitive, not attached to material things, may experience unusual phenomena, and retain an attitude of abundance. When this chakra works well we are able to see beyond distractions and illusions and cultivate the type of insight that allows us to live our best life. The third eye chakra resonates with the color purple, bluish purple, or indigo.

I believe that when this chakra is in harmony, your life is also in harmony. I think that you can maintain good boundaries with people, keep yourself out of harm’s way, and live your life from a place of love and good judgment. Joseph Kauffman said, “You are not limited to this body, to this mind, or to this reality—you are a limitless ocean of Consciousness, imbued with infinite potential. You are existence itself.” Or as Rumi would say, “You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.” We must know that and be able to sense that for ourselves. 

So what are some ways to balance the Third Eye Chakra?

·      Meditation to balance the Third Eye Chakra. Mediation is a super important function of the third eye chakra. Meditation is an essential function for this chakra in particular. You may get a tingly feeling in the third eye region or a headache when meditating to open this chakra.   Each Chakra is also associated with a particular sound. The third eye chakra is associated with the sound/mantra SHAM. Meditating and chanting to SHAM for even a few minutes can be beneficial to helping balance the third eye chakra. Listening to 852Hz while meditating is also great—this frequency resonates with the third eye chakra. It helps to awaken the intuition and access hidden knowledge in the subconscious mind that we can transform into wisdom.     

· Crystal Healing. Crystals vibrate with different energies. Helpful crystals for third chakra healing work are crystals that are blue and purple in color. These include: Sodalite, Lapis Lazuli, Amethyst (the stone of spiritual perfection), Lepidolite, Ametrine, Labradorite, Kyanite, and Blue Tiger’s Eye. Carrying these close to you and placing the gemstones on the area of your third eye chakra while lying down can be very beneficial to helping with alignment.

Amethyst is one of my faves!!

·      Colors. Surround yourself with the colors purple and indigo.  Similar to the blue of the throat chakra, these colors are is among the most calming and beautiful colors. Wear purple or indigo color clothing, or add some to your décor.   

· Foods. Blue and purple foods resonate with this chakra. For example purple grapes, plums, eggplant, purple sweet potato, purple kale, and lavender infused beverages and foods. I love lavender!

On a trip to the Lavender farm!

·      Seek therapy. Therapy really helped me in this area. It helped to have someone neutral to talk to openly and honestly. As always, I will always include this, but I am aware that it can be difficult for some people, whether due to financial barriers or through other forms of access. There are resources available for low cost or virtual therapy. Here is a resource from SAMSHA:  https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/

·      Practice self -reflection. Journal and try to think of some of the things that you believe and why you believe them.

From Unsplash

·      Practice your affirmations! Here are a few: I honor and trust my intuition. I have clarity and peace of mind. I am receiving and I am trusting. I look inward and outward for wisdom. I nurture my spirit. I am connected with the wisdom of the universe. My life flows effortlessly. 

As always, I hope that this information was informative and that you can apply these in a practical manner in your life. Please let me know if anything works well for you!! Also, please feel free to drop more tips/suggestions in the comments. If you are enjoying the videos, please like, comment, share, and definitely subscribe to the channel! May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may you feel connected to the deepest wisdom and love of the universe. Thank you.

Pure Communication. Lessons from the Throat Chakra (Vishuddha)

Hello beautiful people and welcome to your weekly dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. Jumping right in this week, we are picking up where we left off on our journey through the chakras. In our last conversation on this topic, we talked about the heart chakra. The heart chakra served as a bridge between the higher and lower chakras—or between matter and spirit. Now we arrive at the fifth chakra, the throat chakra or the Vishuddha. This is the first of the higher chakras, and in my opinion, it also serves as a doorway into higher consciousness. Why is that? It is because I believe that this chakra comes with a certain level of responsibility. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/rzfURQ0f_c4

I also believe that when we are attuned to the throat chakra, we get to experience the world from a more wholesome and purer place. In fact, the Sanskrit word Vishuddha means “pure, especially pure, and purification.” This chakra, as my friend Mr. Rishi taught me, “governs speaking your own truth, listening and being heard, communication, and finding your true voice.” This is the place where we work on expanding our voice and our will.

Liz Simpson wrote that, “Developing the throat chakra means choosing words that bring value to communication. A further implication of Vishuddha is that only by successfully working through the lower four chakras can you reach the purification necessary to open the Throat Chakra.” This implies that there is a certain level of thought and maturity that goes into not only speaking, but also to the act of listening. Active listening is very much a part of what this chakra is about—and it is imperative that we develop this skill to allow for better communication!

I have seen reference to an acronym that is perfect for this topic. It is THINK. I could not find the original source. I got everything from Rumi to self-attributions that didn’t seem to make sense. So to whoever coined this, thank you. It says, Before you speak, THINK. You are then invited to ask the following questions about what you are about to say. T-Is it true? H-Is it helpful? I-Is it inspiring? N-Is it necessary? K-Is it kind? I think that this is a useful guide for learning how to and actually speaking our truth. This is tied into the notion that each word, each thought, and each action that emanates from us has some sort of consequence on everything and everyone around us. 

There are many many opinions on what it means to “speak your truth.” Oprah said, “What I know for sure is that speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have.” Some people feel that people should not be encouraged to speak “their truth,” thinking that someone’s truth might not be “the truth.” I think that is why this acronym is useful. All of the letters work together. The very first letter—says is it true? Something may feel true to you, but it may not be helpful to the conversation or kind. I think that allows an opportunity to take a look at the things that we believe to be true.

That being said, I do think there are benefits to speaking your truth and finding your voice. Some of these are that you end up feeling at peace. If you have ever had something to say and didn’t speak up, it can create feelings of resentment and regret. It also helps to build your confidence and help you overcome fears that you may have in sharing your voice. What you may discover is that others feel a similar way, or you inspire someone, or you just feel more like your authentic self. That is a freeing feeling. Additionally, it has been my experience that if you don’t speak up, people won’t know what you want. I think humans have the tendency to think everyone else is a mind reader and will know from our clues and behavior what it is that we want. But life does not work that way. We have to tell people how we feel, what we need, and what we want. Brene Brown, who I love, has a quote that says, “Clear is kind.” I use this in different settings, but it really guides how I communicate with others. Am I being clear?

If you are not familiar with Brene’s work, she does a lot on vulnerability. I know—all of this work takes courage, and you have it! I know you have it. One of the quotes that I life from her says, “Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor—the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant ‘To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.’ Over time, this definition has changed, and today, we typically associate courage with heroic and brave deeds. But in my opinion, this definition fails to recognize the inner strength and level of commitment required for us to actually speak honestly and openly about who we are and about our experiences—good and bad. Speaking from our hearts is what I think of as ‘ordinary courage.’”

I imagine that this is why the heart chakra comes before the throat chakra. We had to build our courage so that we could communicate in kind, honest, and real ways. Speaking is not the only part of this, as I mentioned before. Active listening is also a very important part of pure communication. Active listening means that you are fully engaged and immersed in what the other person is saying. When you give your full attention to what someone else is saying, you are showing respect, earning trust, and hopefully listening to hear, so that another can feel heard. Some features of active listening include: asking questions to reflect back what was said, using verbal and nonverbal feedback, being patient, nonjudgmental, and asking for clarification and summarizations. In active listening you are not trying to one up the other person, drifting off with your own thoughts, ignoring what you don’t understand, rushing the speaker, or only pretending to pay attention. You are truly giving the conversation your time and energy. This is important in all relationships, and it is also important in modeling how you want to be listened to as well.

The Vishuddha or throat chakra is located in the region of the throat, jaw, neck, mouth and thyroid. More specifically is at the base of the neck in the back of the throat. It is associated with authentic expression, speaking, listening, and even creativity. When there is an imbalance or a blockage in the throat chakra you might find that you have a harder time communicating effectively, or may be overtalkative, gossipy, dogmatic, arrogant, self-righteous, unreliable, holds inconsistent views, poor listener, or fearful in speaking your personal truth. Physical ailments can include chronic sore throats, neck and shoulder pains, thyroid issues, mouth ulcers, gum disease, laryngitis, asthma, and hearing problems. 

When the throat chakra is in balance, we speak, listen, and express ourselves in our most authentic way. We are clear, kind, and inspiring. We listen well, we speak our truth in the best possible way, we are artistically inspired, have a good sense of timing, can bring our creative projects into existence, and we are also calmer and more centered. This chakra has a natural connection with the sacral chakra/the second chakra—our center of emotions and creativity.

The element associated with the throat chakra is the ether or spirit. This chakra has a major role in connecting you to spirit, and so the ability to meditate is another important benefit of a balanced throat chakra. Once you do, you are better able to align your vision with reality. 

In my own life, I have worked hard to balance this chakra. There have been many times in my life when I did not say what I wanted to say, or speak when I needed to. A lot of pain sat in this area of my world, under a façade of saying what I thought people wanted to hear thinking it would keep the peace. In reality it made a bad situation for me. I was trapped within myself, and unsure of who I was and what I wanted. This chakra requires us to speak up—both to ourselves and others. What do you want? What do you like? What do you want to create? It has required a lot of speaking up even when I have feared rejection or concern that I will be viewed in a particular way. Sometimes I have spoken up on things and my voice has been shaky, but in the end, it was something that needed to be said. I have also applied this to relationships—telling people what I need, and asking them to share what they need in return. This lets me know if I am even capable of handling what they need from me, and it reminds us both that neither of us are mind readers. I have also made an effort to truly listen—not to just respond, but to make sure that I understand what is being said to me. It has really improved my relationships, and it is still a work in progress.

So what are some ways to balance the Throat Chakra? 

· Meditation to balance the throat Chakra. Mediation is a super important function of the throat chakra. Many meditations out there can help you to concentrate healing energies to the Throat area. Each Chakra is also associated with a particular sound. The throat chakra is associated with the sound/mantra HAM. Meditating and chanting to HAM for even a few minutes can be beneficial to helping balance the throat chakra. Listening to 741 Hz while meditating is also great—this frequency resonates with the throat chakra. It helps to generate clear ideas, inspire creative thinking, clear communication, empowerment, and confidence.

· Crystal Healing. Crystals vibrate with different energies. Helpful crystals for throat chakra healing work are crystals that are blue in color. These include: Sodalite, Lapis Lazuli, Aquamarine, blue celestite, turquoise, Blue lace agate, Blue Quartz, Kyanite, Labradorite, and Chrysocolla. Carrying these close to you and placing the gemstones on the area of your throat chakra while lying down can be very beneficial to helping with alignment.

·      Colors. Surround yourself with the color blue. Blue is one of the most calming and beautiful colors. Wear blue clothing, or add some to your décor.   

· Foods. Blue and purple foods resonate with this chakra. For example blueberries, purple grapes, and blackberries are great. Additionally water and warm herbal teas are also important for throat chakra healing.

·      Sing. If you know me, you know that I am prone to bursting out in song, even though I don’t have a singing voice. Speaking, singing, reading poetry aloud and using that part of your body is helpful!

·      Neck and shoulder stretches and massages are also helpful to this chakra.  

·      Seek therapy. Therapy really helped me in this area. It helped to have someone neutral to talk to openly and honestly. As always, I will always include this, but I am aware that it can be difficult for some people, whether due to financial barriers or through other forms of access. There are resources available for low cost or virtual therapy. Here is a resource from SAMSHA:  https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/

· Connect with the ether or spirit element. Check out my previous video/blog on the element of spirit. https://youtu.be/MTMhXJibSro

· Practice your affirmations! Here are a few: What I have to say is worthy of being heard. My voice is becoming stronger. I speak my truth freely and openly. I hear and speak the truth. I express myself clearly. I love to share my experiences and wisdom, and I know when it is time to listen. I listen to my body and my feelings to know what my truth is. I live in my truth, I communicate my truth, I am the truth.

You are worthy of being heard! 🙂

As always, I hope that this information was informative and that you can apply these in a practical manner in your life. Please let me know if anything works well for you!! Also, please feel free to drop more tips/suggestions in the comments. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may you feel safe and free to communicate in your most authentic way. Thank you.

The Wisdom that We Learn from our Elders

Artist, Yermo


Hello beautiful people, and welcome to your weekly dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. So, I had every intention of discussing the Throat Chakra this week. I love the Throat Chakra, and love encouraging others to speak their truth because there are major benefits to doing this, but then a few things came to mind. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/3Um4i7meGTo

One year of reflection…

First, I want you to check in with yourself…just breath and be present here right now. For a lot of people, this week meant reflecting on a year since most things got shut down for the coronavirus. Our lives have changed in ways that we really could not have fathomed. We have come face to face with ourselves, with grief, with death, and with the notion that life can change suddenly. Within all of that there has also been moments of love, gratitude, understanding, breakthrough, and joy. Whatever this past year has been for you, I am thankful that you are here—reading or watching, and feeling hopeful for a new day. I maintain that this too shall pass, and that after the darkness of a long night, that dawn will always come. I feel the dawn coming, each day, I feel more hopeful. I have learned a lot during this time, and it has really inspired me to truly live an intentional and purposeful life, and to make each moment worth it—doing the things that I love, with the people that I love. Whatever you have gone through, whether good or not so great—I send you lots of love.

The second thing is that I got totally caught up on a topic that came to mind after watching an interesting movie. The movie, “I Care A Lot,” is on Netflix.

And when I say “interesting,” please know that I am still trying to process what I watched—was the writing brilliant in that it highlights something that I feel we need to address as a society—that is how we treat the elderly? Or is it that the writing was not that great, and the whole movie was carried along by the performances of Rosamund Pike and Peter Dinklage? If you have seen this movie, please drop a comment in the comment box and let me know your thoughts.

Without spoiling the movie for you, the basic premise is that the main character, Marla Grayson is the head of Grayson’s Guardianships. She makes her living by convincing the legal system to grant her guardianship over elderly people who she pretends cannot take care of themselves. Note she does not work alone—she has connections with people in both the care home field, and the medical profession. It also seems to me that she has found a loop hole in the system as it pertains to elder care, and she exploits it to the fullest basically fueled by her desire to be really rich. Once she has the power of the courts on her side, she shows up to the home of her prey and has them placed in assisted living facilities or nursing homes where they lose contact with the outside world. Once they are essentially out of the way, she sells their home and assets, and then pays herself from the proceeds. It is all very nefarious in my book, and I watched some of the movie seething at the way I saw her taking advantage of the elderly. The crux of the movie comes when she gets wind of “Jennifer Peterson,” a seemingly perfect potential ward for her—Jennifer is very wealthy, and by all accounts has no family. Let’s just say that things got very interesting from that point. 

I think that most people watching the movie wonder if this is something that can even happen. Can someone just show up at your home and say that it was determined by the state that you are no longer capable of taking care of yourself so they have now assigned you a guardian? Can someone who is a complete stranger be assigned to make your decisions? What happens if they are supposed to have your best interests in mind but it seems like maybe they don’t? Unfortunately, many states had loopholes that made it possible for guardianship scams to happen. In 2017, the New Yorker wrote an article called, “How the Elderly Lose Their Rights.” https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/10/09/how-the-elderly-lose-their-rights

One point of note was that many states have actually worked to reform guardianships because there had been a rise in guardianship scams. 

What is guardianship anyway? I should clarify that as well!

According to Justia, “Guardianship is a legal process used to protect individuals who are unable to care for their own well-being due to infancy, incapacity, or disability. A court will appoint a legal guardian to care for an individual, known as a ward, who is in need of special protection. Legal guardians have the legal authority to make decisions for their wards and present their wards personal and financial interests.” This largely functions state by state. 

Sara Luterman wrote an article for the Nation in which she called for the abolition of guardianships. Most people have heard of guardianship because of pop culture, and recent issues with Britney Spears and her dad. Luterman said, “Guardianship is built on the patronizing assumption that people with certain disabilities are incapable of being full citizens and need a nondisabled person to act as their proxy in all things… According to AARP, about 1.3 million Americans are currently under guardianship. It is hard to say exactly how many because the record-keeping is poor and there are no national standards or federal oversight. As a system, guardianship relies on the assumption that guardians are benevolent and always want the best for their wards. And this is probably true for most guardians: They want to protect their elderly parents or disabled children from financial exploitation and worse. But unfortunately, no system that depends on the individual benevolence of someone with absolute power can be relied on. People under guardianship still have their own opinions and feelings, and they deserve the respect that everyone else is afforded.” There are also some who just simply call for the reform of guardianships around the country. If you would like more resources on Elder Law and on Guardianships, the American Bar Association has a page full of resources. https://www.americanbar.org/groups/law_aging/resources/guardianship_law_practice/

In the future, I will maybe do a post/video on getting our legal life in order—wills and directives are not just for the elderly. These are things we all should think about.

That being said, what all of this really made me think about was how we as a society treat the elderly. Many of us have heard the phrase, “Once a Man, twice a child.” There is something known as The Theory of Retrogenesis and it comes up often in the study of dementia and Alzheimer’s. It basically says, “The Retrogenesis theory refers to the process by which degenerative mechanisms in dementia reverse those of normal human development.” (Reisberg). In other words, the person regresses backwards as a child’s brain progresses forward. Cicero said, “For there is assuredly nothing dearer to a man than wisdom, and though age takes away all else, it undoubtedly brings us that.” With the understanding that as we grow older there may be a time when we are unable to take care of ourselves, many ancient cultures had an awareness of this, and had plans in place to take care of their elderly. It was not just that there was a certain level of honor and respect that came with aging, there was also a cultural aspect that was very important to the society as a whole. There was also a certain amount of reverence for the wisdom and the experience that comes along with age. An African proverb said, “Those who respect the elderly pave their own road towards success.” 

There are many lessons that we can learn from the elderly include those on forgiveness, integrity, gratitude, growth, relationships, and just life. 

Jared Diamond, the writer of Guns, Germs, and Steel, wrote The World Until Yesterday, in which he investigated traditional societies and what the modern world might learn from them.

He ask the question, “What can we learn about how to treat elderly people from traditional societies.” While there are many variables to consider, he noted that in modern society, many older people end up living separately from their family and friends. At the worst extreme, we get rid of the elderly by either: neglecting them and not feeding them, abandoning them when the group moves, encouraging suicide, or killing them. He mentioned that there were reasons for that including the environment (artic or desert extremes for example) and resources like food. But he mentioned cultures where there is a priority for feeding and caring for the elderly. Diamond points out the connection between society’s values and the usefulness of the elderly, and the contributions that they can make. Their contributions include childcare, crafting, leading, and sharing knowledge. He also pointed out that in ancient cultures, the wisdom of the elderly spelled the difference between survival and death.

Clarissa Pinkola Estes

I once listened to a story from Clarissa Pinkola Estes, gifted writer, folklorist, and story teller, where she tells the story of a young man who was tired of taking care of his father. He brought him up to a hill to abandon him, and returned to the village. When things started to get cold and dark, he did not know how to start a fire. No one in the village felt responsible for teaching him this, because it was the role of the elders closest to him. He eventually went back up to the mountain to retrieve his father, and his father ended up teaching him how to light the fire. He also learned more about his father’s life, and developed a true respect for him. One of Diamond’s comments about his research was, “The repositories of knowledge are the memories of old people. If you don’t have old people to remember what happened 50 years ago, you’ve lost a lot of experience for that society.” That includes everything from communal history to advice on surviving natural disasters.

There are also many studies about how different societies treat and respect their elderly—for example in many Asian and Mediterranean cultures, it was considered dishonorable not to take care of the elderly. It was also very common to find multigenerational families. Modern technology and things like globalization and modernization have led to a breakdown in those traditional structures. Diamond said there was also a “cult of youth,” and an emphasis on “work” as how people gain value. Once you are no longer working, in some cases you lose the value that you had in the eyes of society. He also mentioned that modern technology is putting some of the elderly at a risk of falling behind in terms of what modern literacy means. He said, to improve the lives of the elderly we should, “Understand their changing strengths and weaknesses as they age, and appreciate their deeper understanding of human relationships and their ability to think across wide-ranging disciplines, to strategize, and share what they’ve learned.” I think this is super important. 

Pearl Buck said, “Our society must make it right and possible for old people not to fear the young or be deserted by them, for the test of a civilization is the way it cares for its helpless members.” Hubert Humphrey also said, “the moral test of the government is how that government treats those who are in the dawn of life, the children, those who are in the twilight of life, the elderly; those who are in the shadows of life; the sick, the needy and the handicapped.” How are we treating the elderly people in our lives? Are they feeling lonely, neglected? Are we treating them as disposable? And why? 

Personally, I view the people that are older than me as gold mines of wisdom, knowledge, and love.

Acklyn, one of my favorite wise people to chat with!
❤ Ktwinkle

An Ntomba proverb said, “A youth that does not cultivate friendship with the elderly is like a tree without roots.”

The last time I saw my great grandmother. She lived past 100.
Judy, Amy, and I ❤

I gain new perspectives and things to ponder from what I learn from those more senior people in my life. In some folktales, we find the archetype of the crone. “The Crone is a symbol of inherent wisdom that comes from experience. She has lived through love, sorrow, hope, and fear, coming out of it all a wise and confident spirit. Through these experiences she has learned the secrets of life and death and of the mysteries beyond this world.” When we connect with the elderly, they can pass this wisdom down to us.

I also had the benefit of living in a multigenerational family structure for years.

Me and grandma

When I returned to that structure after living alone for a few years, many people asked when I would leave. I would chuckle because I didn’t want to. I enjoyed having the perspectives of my grandmother, aunt, mother, and then my younger siblings below me. Additionally, I have friends of ages below and above me.

Three generations ❤

I value these relationships because they are so meaningful. I have had some beautiful conversations, some nuggets of wisdom, and the ability to bask in their company. I do believe society should make the elderly a priority. We can all start doing that on an individual level.

Tips for Cultivating Relationships with the Elderly:

·      Find common interests

·      Ask questions about their life and experiences

·      Tell them interesting things that are happening in your life

·      Spend time together—have conversations, go places (when possible)

·      Be an advocate (If you see something where someone may try to take advantage of someone)

·      Be patient 

· Be genuine

A big thank you to the people in my life who are considered by society as “elderly.” I am thankful for you, and I love you guys! As always, thank you for being here! May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may you cultivate a beautiful relationship with people of different ages than you!

Letting Love in (And Out)…the Heart Chakra

Hello beautiful people and welcome to your weekly dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. I never take your time for granted—I appreciate the time you spend either reading my blog or watching my videos or both. This is a passion project born of love, and of a desire to be of service–to share the ways in which I have seen how miraculous and beautiful life can be. It is not always easy, especially when the world can seem so chaotic at times. In those times, I try to remember as mythology teaches, that entire worlds can be birth from chaos.

Anais Nin said, “In chaos, there is fertility,” and Friedrich Nietzsche said, “You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.” So when things seem chaotic, I like to think of what is being birthed? What can we birth in our own lives when things seem to be a bit more chaotic than we would like it to be? That is just a thought for you to ponder…something to sit with through this week. So yes, all of that to say again thank you for your time, energy, and presence. Thank you for being here on planet Earth, at a time such as this.

Today we are going to talk about the fourth chakra—the heart chakra—or Anahata. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/MGhEDGhvTRA I thought for a very long time about how to present this chakra. As with each chakra, there is so much to say, so much that can be unraveled and revealed even within our own individual lives and our own ways of working with these energy vortexes. If I had to choose one word for the heart chakra, it would be “love.”

If I had to choose a way of visualizing it, I would see it as ebbs of gold, pink, and green light swirling from the chest area out to the world. This light would interact with everything and everyone—from plants and animals—their anima—their spirit and soul, that which is in all of nature, up to the cosmos and back down to the Earth’s core, and of course, it would flow between each of us—from one to another, we would feel love, compassion, empathy, care, appreciation, and a deep reverence and respect for each other and for everything.

If I had to pick a quote—well, you know me well enough to know by now, that I could not pick just one. I will start with one from the Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho. “One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.” And then, by Jacques Benigne Bossu “The heart has reasons that reason does not understand.” Marcia Wiederkehr said, “I stand before what is an open heart. And with an open heart I dwell in possibility.” The heart chakra represents all of the potential of the blessings that come with having an open heart. In the Prophet, Khalil Gibran said some of the most beautiful words that I have heard arranged together.

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.” The heart chakra is a love letter to us, and it is a love letter to life.

In Sanskrit, Anahata means “sound produced without touching two parts.” It also means, “pure, clean, stainless, unhurt, unstuck, and unbeaten.” This fourth chakra is associated with unconditional love, with compassion, joy, and the deepest truths of life—those which cannot be expressed in words. It is also associated with balance, calmness, and serenity. This is the part of the journey through the chakras where we arrive at the center—we arrive to the heart of things.

This chakra represents a bridge between the three lower chakras representing matter (Root, Sacral, and Solar Plexus), and the higher chakras representing spirit (Throat, Third Eye, and Crown). It is also a step into another element. With the root chakra represented by the grounded Element of Earth, the Sacral Chakra represented by the creative energy of the Element of Water, and the Solar Plexus represented by the passionate Element of Fire, we now arrive at the Element of Air. Air is ethereal and intangible, and this chakra represents the move from the tangible to the intangible. Air is all around us. Liz Simpson describes the Heart Chakra by saying, “This love is not dependent on others. It is not the tribal love of the Root Chakra or the sexual love of the Sacral Chakra, but is a state of being, enduring and constant, regardless of externals.”

I believe that the heart chakra asks the question—Can you love and be loved despite? You can fill in your own word after despite, but some that I think of are: Can you love and be loved despite past hurt? Can you love and be loved despite a difference of opinion and belief? Can you love and be loved despite how you were raised to believe that love should be? Can you love and be loved despite the story of love that you have created in your mind? No matter—whether it may be outdated and not working? Are you consciously aware of the story that you are telling yourself about love? 

Many years ago when I first when to see my dear friend Mr. Rishi, he told me that I needed to work on strengthening my Heart chakra. His words were, “You need to strengthen your Heart chakra which governs compassion, love, your emotional zone, self-acceptance and forgiveness. Imbalance causes grief, allergies and fever, depression or heart ailments. Once opened you are blessed with good health, peace, fulfilment of desires and good relationships.” I knew something was wrong in that area. I had suffered heartaches—and that is the chance that we take right—when we love, we risk hurt? I suffered heartaches and internalized them mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. I was building a wall around my heart that was bigger than the Great Wall of China. But when we build walls, we have to remember that we are not just keeping people and experiences out, we are also keeping ourselves in. We are creating a prison for ourselves. We have to be able to transform pain so that we can keep our love flowing. The Anahata is the spiritual place where we become free from the past so that old hurts and grievances can no longer hurt us. It is our sacred inner temple, and the work that we do there not only benefits us internally, but also externally.

The heart chakra is found at the center of our chest area. Because of its location, it has associations with the cardiac system and with the lungs. As the heart chakra is also associated with air, it should be no surprise that these organs rely on air and the breath (prana) to function properly. It is also associated with the immune system.

It is also said that the Earth has chakra points. Many people theorize that the Earth’s heart chakra is located in two cities fairly close to each other in England—Glastonbury, and Shaftesbury. They are also close to Stonehenge. I have visited Glastonbury (also because it is also thought to be the mythical land of Avalon from King Arthur tales) and could definitely feel the energy of the place. The heart chakra is associated with the color green. At higher frequencies it is also associated with the color pink. It represents love energy and transformation.

Glastonbury Tor
It was very windy and cold, but smiles anyway!
Smaller than I thought it would be, but still cool!
Stonehenge

When this chakra is imbalanced or blocked you may have physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual symptoms. This could include: deep insecurities and fears, manipulative behavior when it comes to love, difficulty trusting, feelings of jealousy, you may isolate yourself excessively, you put yourself in the role of victim or rescuer, you may be possessive, you may love conditionally—I will only love you if…, you might withhold emotions to punish others, you could be overly dramatic, fear rejection, feel unworthy to receive love, and codependent. Physical ailments can include respiratory problems—lung infections, bronchitis, and circulatory and heart related issues.

When this chakra is healthy, opened, and aligned, you are empathetic, compassionate, you love unconditionally, you are nurturing, you feel surrounded by love and joy, you feel connected to the world, you see the beauty and love in yourself, in others, and in the planet, you feel gratitude, you have emotional control, you are able to transcend the ego, and you experience deep and meaningful relationships.

When working on healing my heart chakra, I had to get very real and very honest with myself. I had to ask questions where I knew the answers might hurt my feelings. What was the root source of my attraction to codependent relationships? Why didn’t I feel truly worthy of a healthy love and relationship? What did I think of myself? Could I forgive myself for my role in my life when things went wrong? Could I forgive others? There were tears, and deep walks with my shadow. But one day, I stopped feeling the pain of heartache, and instead felt the joy of immersing myself in love again. It can take time, and it can be scary to face yourself. And you will feel like quitting…but I ask you to keep on the road if you are doing heart chakra work. Asking these questions along with doing the work—the hard but rewarding work of healing, really transformed my life. That is the promise of the heart chakra. Open your heart, take that risk, and you will reap the rewards. It may not always work out, but an open heart chakra allows us to see the blessings in each lesson, and in each season of our life. My wish for you is that you know the joys of an open heart chakra—the release of fears, the release of insecurities, the pleasure of deep and meaningful relationships with yourself and others.

So what are some ways to balance the Heart Chakra? 

· Meditation to balance the Heart Chakra. Many meditations out there can help you to concentrate healing energies to the Heart Chakra area. Each Chakra is also associated with a particular sound. The heart chakra is associated with the sound/mantra YAM. Meditating and chanting to YAM for even a few minutes can be beneficial to helping balance the heart chakra—the anahata. Listening to 128Hz frequency or 639Hz while meditating is also great—these are the frequencies that resonates with the heart chakra. They help to activate love, compassion, vulnerability, and forgiveness.

·      Crystal Healing. Crystals vibrate with different energies.  Helpful crystals for heart chakra healing work are crystals that are green or pink in color. These include some of my personal favorites: Rose Quartz, Emerald (The stone of successful love), Malachite, Jade, Aventurine, Rhodochrosite, and Amazonite (Stone of Courage). Carrying these close to you and placing the gemstones on the area of your heart chakra while lying down can be very beneficial to helping with alignment. 

· Colors. Surround yourself with the colors pink and green. These colors are most strongly associated with the heart chakra. Wear pink or green clothing—talk to your AKA friends and see if they can hook you up with some green and pink décor.

· Foods. Eating your greens has never felt so good! Eat things like leafy greens, green vegetables, green fruits things like green apples, kiwi, spinach, kale, celery, callaloo, collard greens, broccoli, green grapes, avocado, Brussel sprouts and spirulina. Foods with a green color resonate with this chakra.

· Practice Forgiveness. This Buddhist forgiveness prayer is one of my favorites: If I have harmed anyone in any way either knowingly or unknowingly through my own confusions, I ask their forgiveness. If anyone has harmed me in any way either knowingly or unknowingly through their own confusion, I forgive them. And if there is a situation, I am not yet ready to forgive, I forgive myself for that. For all the ways that I harm myself, negate, doubt, belittle myself, judge, or be unkind to myself through my own confusions: I forgive myself. You can see it in my video/blog on forgiveness! https://youtu.be/Lu-9trkl3lk

·      Seek therapy. Therapy really helped me in this area. It helped to have someone neutral help me to face myself. As always, I will always include this, but I am aware that it can be difficult for some people, whether due to financial barriers or through other forms of access. There are resources available for low cost or virtual therapy. Here is a resource from SAMSHA:  https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/

· Connect with the air element. Light some incense or go where you can feel a nice breeze. Check out my video/blog on the element of air. https://youtu.be/PObRDbrK9xs

· Practice your affirmations! Here are a few: I am worthy of the purest love. I release and let go of all resentment. I forgive myself and I forgive others. I love myself for who I am and the potential within me. I am grateful for the love that is in my life. There is an infinite supply of love. I live in balance, in a state of gracefulness and gratitude. I am love.

As always, I hope that this information was informative and that you can apply these in a practical manner in your life. Please let me know if anything works well for you!! Also, please feel free to drop more tips/suggestions in the comments. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may you feel the love that is all around deeply and truly. Thank you.