Soothing Yourself…

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. I appreciate your time and presence—whenever or wherever you are watching from. In our last episode, the Divine Woo joined us to talk about the Tarot, and the fool’s journey. This was timely since we are in the midst of some major cosmic happenings that portend major endings and beginnings. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/awr4h-h1yB4

I made a previous video/blog on eclipses so check that out. These eclipses are very deep—happening in the signs of Scorpio and Taurus, and for some of us they might stir a little bit of anxiety. Scorpio especially carries a deep energetic signature of letting go, of death, and ultimately of rebirth.

It is a sign firmly planted in the fall, while Taurus is in the spring. We know that whatever is dying in our lives, whatever we are letting go of, is creating room for something new to present itself, or for a divine rebirth. And yet, so much has already happened, we just want reprieve now. I have personally felt the purging from my life, and even with a knowledge of the cycles, and good coping mechanisms, it can be a lot—it has been a lot. Also, to be clear—the planets and the cosmos don’t make anything happen, and everyone has free will, but the influence can be felt very strongly, and that can impact decisions, actions, and how we feel energetically. It is also worth noting here that different cosmic happenings impact and influence people in different ways. We don’t all feel these things in the same way, but we all experience transits that can impact our lives at certain times more strongly than at other moments.

It is for these reasons that the topic of soothing oneself has come up several times for me in the past few weeks. I initially intended to make this blog and video earlier, but the timing was not right. It has also become increasingly important for me to prioritize rest and my own self-care. This has manifested itself in actual sleep, taking time from being “productive,” honoring what my body needs, and holding space for myself.

I do hold space for other people, and I do believe that is one of the duties that we have as human beings—how we show up for each other is important. Healthy boundaries are also important, but at least for me, I appreciate the connections that I have with other humans. I don’t ever want my friends to apologize either if they come with their tears, or heavy emotion, because friendship and love is about so much more than unicorns and sunshine—and everyone knows that unicorns and sunshine is my jam.

But being a human means being our full and complex selves, and processing the full range of everything that we feel. In the last several weeks, I have had plenty of cries—my body has literally purged pent up emotion—sadness, grief, fatigue, disappointment, and even fear of the unknown. My closest friends and family members have held space for me to express what I am feeling—they don’t even always need to know all the details, but they remind me of some truths.

Gift 🎁 from my friend ♥️

They have also helped me to soothe myself when things feel particularly overwhelming, but importantly, I have been reminded how to soothe myself when no one is available to help with that. This is also important because sometimes the people we care about don’t have the bandwidth to hold space for us. They might also be dealing with heavy things, or just don’t have the time. Sometimes we are all we have. I have learned more and more over the years why our relationship with ourself is so important. It is because when there is no one else around, we still have ourselves.

We have to get to know who we are at our core, because ultimately we will be with ourselves all day, every day for the rest of our lives. Do you like the person that you are? Do you know who you are? Befriending yourself is probably the first part of being able to soothe yourself. How do you talk to yourself? I have been hard on me at times, feeling foolish for something that I did or said, or even for things I did not do, and yet, I, like most people have been doing the best that I can under the circumstances. Offer yourself some compassion and some grace. Speak to yourself in the same way that you would to a beloved friend or relative. Thank your body for everything that it does for you—thank it for being the physical vessel for your soul—treat it as though it deserves your love.

Offer yourself delicious things 🍎

So speaking with someone that you love and trust is a soothing mechanism, and that does include conversations with yourself. 

Some other mechanisms are:

· Actual meditation. This can be difficult if you are feeling anxious, but sometimes listening to a meditation without trying to engage with it can be a helpful first step. I have some meditations saved that are so soothing, that even listening to them can help me to settle my spirit, and even fall asleep.

· Journaling. I am not great at journaling, but it is such a useful act. I endeavor to get better at this because it is also a good way at looking back on your progress. When you can see how far you have come, that can be helpful in reminding yourself that you are doing better than you give yourself credit for. I mentioned to someone the other day that the things that use to stress you out two years ago are not the things stressing you out today. So we need to remember that sometimes because we are able to make it through crazy times—and into new situations that help with our personal evolution!

· Exercise. This helps to create serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins that help us to feel better. Whenever I am having a difficult moment, one of my favorite cousin’s says to me, “Did you or can you take a walk?” Even a short ten or fifteen minute walk can be helpful! I will also make a plug here for boxing and other exercises that you may not have considered. My trainer is teaching me boxing. Not only have I found it to be very effective in helping to strengthen my body, but I always feel exhilaration after my session. It is different, but it is helpful for releasing pent up emotions as well.

· Rest. In the famous poem Desiderata, one section that always sticks with me says, “Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.” Yes, fatigue, exhaustion, and tiredness can create anxiety. Sometimes you do need the nap, or just a good night’s sleep.

· A warm or hot shower. Water soothes me, and so it is always one of my go to tools. I also have eucalyptus bundles hanging in my shower, and beyond it feeling like a spa, it also helps to soothe my spirit. It’s my emotional support eucalyptus bundle if you will. Eucalyptus is known for its calming properties. Lavender, rose oil, and other essential oils can also be added to bath water, or your soap for a similar aromatic experience.

· Drink some tea. I love coffee, but nothing soothes my soul like a cup of hot tea. I have many tea variations for an assortment of moods and moments. Some good options are: ginger, mint, spearmint, chamomile, cinnamon and orange, and raspberry.

· And of course there is also the option of soothing yourself with breathing. We will go through a small example of this now. I want you to close your eyes. Take in a deep but comfortable breath. Become aware that you are breathing, and feel the warmness of your breath as you inhale and exhale. As you inhale, slow and deep, just say to yourself, I am inhaling peace, and calm. I am inhaling love and compassion. How does that make your body feel? Are you softening? As you exhale, ask your body to release any stress, and any anxiety that you are feeling. Feel the tension in your body dissipate as you remind yourself that as long as you are breathing, that you have the ability to feel peace, happiness, and joy. As long as you are breathing, life can go well. If you are so inclined, put your hand over your heart, and feel the movement of your body as you breath. Thank your heart, and thank your body for everything they are doing for you. How does that feel? This is one of the best mechanisms that I have for soothing myself when things feel off kilter. You can also do this exercise with someone—if you have a trusted person, they can walk you through the breathing exercise.

 

All of this is just to help sooth us when things feel crazy. As Prince used to say, “Dearly Beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called life.”

I don’t know the future, or what the next days or weeks will bring. The last few months have taught me not to take anything or anyone for granted because we never know when life will shift.

We never know if that moment was our last to tell someone that we cared, or whether it was the last time that we would get to experience doing something that we cared about. So many of us are also dealing with the repercussions of life events, and things that have been outside of our control. There is so little that we do control, but there are ways in which we can face the unknowns of life with poise and with grace. Whatever comes, may you feel empowered enough to know that you can face it head on.

Look to the future 💚

May these soothing mechanisms come in handy, may you remember that you are a human being who is doing your best each day, and that looks different on different days, and may the stars shine brightly over your week. May it be a beautiful one indeed, and may things unfold in the most beautiful ways for you.

Tarot and the Divine Woo

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. This week, we have a very special guest—not only did she guest author most of this week’s blog, but I got to interview her for this week’s video. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/NKZhpCHklCo

Please join me in welcoming to the sacred space that is Celestial Goodness—the Divine Woo, also known as one of my favorite people, Desiree! (Desi)

The divine woo 🙂 Desi…

We will start off with what Desi calls “The Fool’s Journey: The What and the Why of Tarot.”

When Desi asked me for the opportunity to be a guest blogger on Celestial Goodness, I knew right away what I wanted her to talk about…The Tarot.


Q: Why is that Desi? Why would I want you to talk about this topic out of all the things that you know a lot about?

One of my favorite cards—this art by Khalid Rosemin

A: Tarot is one of my biggest passions, and when I decided that I wanted to read Tarot professionally, you (Heather) were my primary advocate, even more so than myself. I was scared. You pushed and supported me. As such, I have been reading Tarot professionally for several years. I have had some fantastic moments during my readings and one or two scary moments as well. Overall, it has been a great learning experience, and something fun for me to do that I am also passionate about.

The divine woo booth at a recent event!

Q: You started this discussion by sharing how you were initially scared to start readings professionally. Is there a reason that you begin with that story?

A: Yes, what better way to start the discussion about Tarot than to talk about the beginnings of my own tarot journey because the first card of the Rider–Waite–Smith Tarot deck (one of the most known decks) is the Fool Card. This is traditionally the first card of the Major Arcana cards. The very meaning of this card is starting a new journey. So in telling you about how I began my journey of reading Tarot professionally, you can see a parallel in the Fool’s journey and in my journey.

Q: That sounds good. How did you get into Tarot? 

A: How did I get into Tarot? Years ago, I found a deck that I thought was interesting. So, I purchased it and I started trying to use it. I didn’t know what the deck was called at the time, but I enjoyed trying to remember what the cards meant and I enjoyed learning how to use the deck. Well, that deck turned out to be a Lenormand deck. That is a different divination system than Tarot. One day, I decided that divination was evil and would lead you down the path of sin, so I stopped using the deck and put it away.

Lenormand Deck example


Q: What brought you back to Tarot?

A: Years later, after my spiritual path changed, I no longer believed that divination was evil. So, I started having tarot readings done for me. I really enjoyed the accuracy and timeliness of my readings. I decided I wanted to see if I could do tarot readings for myself. So I purchased a basic Rider-Waite-Smith deck from Barnes and Nobles. From the purchase of that deck, I was hooked. I also found out what buying and reading tarot cards actually leads you. It doesn’t lead to evil, it leads you to buying more tarot decks.

The divine woo as Minerva

Q: So share with us a brief history of tarot cards.  

A: Tarot history traces back to playing cards that were used in Europe in the 1400s. The first “tarot” decks were commissioned and hand-painted by artisans to the specifications of their patrons.  

The earliest tarot cards used for divination purposes (or cartomancy) have been traced back to 1780 in Paris. This is the Tarot of Marseilles, which was abandoned for the Tarot Nouveau around 1900. I primarily use the decks based on the Rider-Waite-Smith deck which was published in 1909.

Tarot Marseilles

Q: Tell us more about the Rider-Waite-Smith deck. 

A: The Rider-Waite-Smith deck consists of 78 cards: The Major Arcana consists of 22 cards; The Minor Arcana makes up the remaining 56 Cards. The Minor Arcana cards similar to playing cards, are broken down into 4 suites: Pentacles, Cups, Wands, and Swords. Each of these suites consists of court cards, King, Queen, Knight, and Page, there are 16 total court cards, and then there are 40 numbered cards—ten per suit. This also includes the 4 Aces which are also very important to a reading.

Q: Introduce us to the Major Arcana. These are some of my favorite cards—and depending on the deck, the artwork for all the cards is usually amazing. 

A: The Major Arcana cards are the energies that you have to deal with for your soul’s growth. These are major life events that will move you towards a higher spiritual connection. In contrast, the Minor Arcana cards represent a more day-to-day energy for experiences that you may have to deal with in your life.  

The Wanderer Deck

Q: So let’s do a deeper dive into the Major Arcana cards. You are going to walk us through the storyline of the Major Arcana, and the fool’s journey through the Major Arcana. You will provide brief explanations of the cards and how they relate to the journey.

A: Yes, the Major Arcana cards start off with the Fool card. This is card 0. As the Fool begins his journey, he meets several people: Card #1. The Magician (the master of all the elements) 2. The High Priestess (who represents deep internal divine wisdom) 3. The Empress (the great mother – the divine feminine), 4. The Emperor (the great father – the divine masculine) and 5. The Hierophant (the Teacher). 

Q: So all of those represent a person. Do you think they are representative of who the fools evolves into? 

A: I think these are people he interacts with more so than who he evolves into.

Q: Please continue.

A: Next, he meets 6. The Lovers (representing love, lovers, or perfect harmony), and they take him to 7. The Chariot, where he has to make a choice and use his 8. Strength to follow through with his choice. As he moves forward, he meets 9. The Hermit (who represents time alone for cultivating wisdom); the Hermit who just wants to be left alone, directs the fool to 10. The Wheel of Fortune.

After spinning the wheel, the Fool must meet with 11. Justice before he can move forward. Justice (Karma) has determined whether the Fool has any debts to fulfill before he can move forward. The Fool runs away, but Justice follows. The Fool runs right into 12. The Hanged Man. The Fool looks to Justice fearfully. Justice explains that The Hanged Man wants a different perspective on 13. Death. The Fool realizes that death is standing nearby. The Fool takes off running again, but not from Justice; this time, he is running from Death.

Q: The death card is one that terrifies a lot of people, right? But it often doesn’t mean a physical death, sometimes it is representative of a symbolic death or an ending?

A: Yes, that is correct. And sometimes it does mean death—that is also a reality. 

As the The Fool runs away from death, he trips at the feet of 14. Temperance. “Why do you run Fool?” Temperance asks this question? I saw Death, and I’m not ready to meet him. Temperance asks, “would you prefer to meet him?” and points to Card 15.,The Devil.

In this card, the Devil tempts a couple who have accepted his enticements, and the Fool watch’s as 16. The Tower on which they stand begins to crumble around them, throwing them to the ground. 

Q: The Tower is one of the most powerful cards in the Major Arcana, right? It definitely indicates a major change. The traditional artwork also shows an implication of choice.

A: Yes, it does. As the Fool runs from the destruction, he does not notice that it is now night. 17. The Star has come out, and the sky is full of pinpricks of light. The Fool finds soft grass near a softly flowing stream, and falls asleep under the light of the 18. Moon. The moonlight is pale and beautiful, but the Fool is awoken from his slumber when he hears the howling of a dog and what sounds like a wolf. They represent the domesticated animal and the wild nature of humanity. A lobster crawls out of the stream’s water and snaps at the Fool. Waking up abruptly, the Fool realizes that the lobster, the dog, and the wolf were just a dream.

As he awakens, he sees Card 19. The Sun rising in the East. As the Fool looks to the sky, he hears the most beautiful-sounding horn in the West. An Angel is also descending from Heaven; the Angel has come to awaken the dead, and as they rise, they move towards the Angel. This is the image of the 20 card–Judgement. The Angel tells the Fool that this music is not for him; it is not his time. He who is not dead must keep moving on—keep moving forward.

Q: And we are almost at the end of this journey.

A: Indeed, as the fool turns and walks away from Judgment, he contemplates all that he has seen. He soon realizes the area he was in is starting to look familiar. The Fool then sees 21. The World. The World is at end of the path. Moving past The World, the Fool realizes he has made a complete journey. But as he looks back, then forward again, he realizes that the journey he had just completed was just the end of one journey and the beginning of a new one. He squares his shoulders and moves onto the path of his next journey.

Q: Wow, tell us now about the Minor Arcana

A: The Minor Arcana cards consist of four suits representing different aspects of daily life, and also different elements. 

Pentacles: The Pentacles represent the element of Earth which corresponds to the material things of life. This includes the acquiring of things, finance, working for things, sharing, hoarding, and enjoying material possessions.

Swords: The Sword suit represents the element of air, which refers to ideas, thoughts, communication, and the initiation of action.

Wands: The Wand suit represents the element of fire, which corresponds with action, imagination, creativity, passion, and intuition.

Cups: The Cup suit represents the element of water which corresponds with emotions, love, feelings, and relationships.

Each suit consist of the Court cards, and the number cards, Ace – Ten of the suits. The Court Cards are the Page, the Knight, the Queen, and the King. These often represent a person in our life, or it can represent us as well.

Each non-court card of the Minor Arcana has a number on it. These numbers have a numerical means called Correspondence. Note that correspondence can depend on how you are trained. So what is listed next is just a small example of the correspondence for the numbered cards. 

Ace: Potential, beginning

Two: Wisdom, choices

Three: Belief, foresight, heartbreak, joy

Four: Compassion, stability, going within, preparing

Five: Rules, strife, disagreements, discord

Six: Harmony, victory, goodwill, recovery

Seven: Aggression, options, running away

Eight: Quick Action, moving on, confusion

Nine: Defensiveness, Satisfaction, worry, or guilt

Ten: Endings, Overextending, joy

Q: Oh wow, tell us about spreads. 

A: Yes, because you are probably like, what the heck does all this have to do with reading Tarot. How does this help me read the Cards… OK, OK… This is a very important concept to understand before you start reading.

A spread is the laying out of the cards so that the reader can “read,” and interpret the cards. There are so many Tarot spreads that there are books written on the topic. You could draw one card to answer a yes or no question. You can use a Three card spread, which can be broken down into: past, present, future. It can also be what you want, what you need, will you get what you want; Alternatively, it can represent, Mind, body, spirit; etc.

You can use a Four card spread which can be broken down into: Question, pros, cons, advice, or even potential, fears, hopes, and outcome.

Then you have multiple card spreads or spreads for specific times of the year. Some examples are spreads for the new moon, spreads for the full moon, spreads for the New Year, and so forth. One of the best-known multiple-card spreads is the Celtic cross. 

The Celtic Cross Spread consists of 10 cards placed in the following position.

Each position in the Celtic Cross spread has a specific meaning, and each card added to the spread leads you to the outcome of the overall message.

Position 1: Represents you

Position 2: What crosses you or potential challenges?

Position 3: What to focus on?

Position 4: Near future?

Position 5: Possible outcomes?

Position 6: Recent past?

Position 7: Your attitude about the situation?

Position 8: What influences you?

Position 9: Your Hopes and Fears?

Position 10: Overall outcome.

Q: That can be a lot, so how does one actually read the tarot cards? 

A: Well, I should mention that Tarot cards can be read upright only (as I do), or you can read the upright cards and the reversal cards. A reversal card comes out upside down, and the meaning is generally a reverse of the upright meaning.

As you can tell from what we have already spoken about, each card has a specific meaning. 

When I do a reading, I start by asking the person if they have a particular question. If so, I ask them to hold the question in their mind. After that, I shuffle the cards, I lay the cards out, and then we discuss what I see and feel from the cards. We also discuss the position of the cards. 

I read tarot cards as their general meanings are given, but I also read them intuitively. Over the years, I have read, researched, and studied the meanings of each card, but I also use my intuition to amplify the reading.

Q: So what would you say that you are actually doing?

A: What am I actually doing? Reading Tarot is not reading the future; it is reading the energy around the situation or the question being asked by the person being read for. Am I predicting the future? No, I’m interpreting what the results will be as of this moment in time. Also, I’m interpreting what could happen if the querent continues on the current path.

There is much more to reading Tarot than I can put into these few pages. Tarot cards have planetary (astrology) correspondences, Chakra correspondence, and much more. We didn’t even get into Oracle cards, which I sometimes pair with tarot cards in my readings. 

Q: I know it is a big topic, and I appreciate all the information that you have given to us today. 

A: Yes, I hope I’ve given you an exciting view of what Tarot is and isn’t and how it can be used to see where you stand in the here and now.

Q: If someone wants to get in touch with you, what is the best way to do so?

A: Someone can email me at: divinewoo111@gmail.com or visit my Etsy shop which is: TheDivineWooBoutique.

And there you have it everyone, a glimpse into the life of a professional tarot reader. Thank you so much to the Divine Woo for being here with us, and sharing her knowledge. It is a huge topic, and if you are interested, consider getting a reading, or consider getting a deck and familiarizing yourself with it. The artwork within the decks also contain a lot of symbolism and meaning, and there are also themed decks.

I think this conversation highlights an important point. Life is a constant journey filled with endings and beginnings—however we have tools and resources to help us. Also, if you were waiting for a sign to begin something that you are interested in, just do it.

We are both saying, just do it! Take a chance on you!

You got this. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may it be a beautiful week indeed.

The Fall Equinox: New Season & New Beginnings

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this dose of Celestial Goodness. This week’s video here: https://youtu.be/WkWfnJ4geik

It has been a while, but we meet now on the eve of a new season. On September 22nd, those of us in the Northern Hemisphere will experience the Fall Equinox.

It is a time when night and day are of equal length, when everything is in perfect balance. From this moment, the nights become longer, the light a little less in the sky, and we are reminded of the power of nature’s cycles, the seasons, and of the lessons inherent in both. The Fall Equinox traditionally represented a time of harvesting—the second harvest, a time of abundance, prosperity, and gratitude.

Within that however, was also the realization that with autumn, the nights would be longer, and soon the earth would sleep—winter would come, deep rest would settle over the land, and we would be reminded of the power in letting go. In this season, we express gratitude for what has come and gone, but also for that which remains. It is also the beginning of Libra season. In astrology speak, this is the seventh zodiac sign, a cardinal sign, an air sign, a sign represented by the planet Venus—beauty, abundance, prosperity, and so much more. The entrance of Libra represents a focus on balance, relationships, justice, and it does indicates the beginning of a new season. For some of us that also includes pumpkin spice, apple orchards, and cooler, crisper weather perfect for bonfires and snuggles.

I have been thinking a lot about new seasons and new chapters. Somewhere between the last time that I posted and today, I have experienced many life events in a condensed period so it feels like it was all at once. Despite being a notorious Pollyanna, I am not immune to the harsher lessons of life, to things that pain my heart, and to the things that crack me open.

The Libran lesson of balance reminds us that life comes with the things that can be perceived as either good or bad. The shadow side of life, and everything else in between. Both are important, and both serve to accelerate our personal growth, our personal ability to transcend the events of life and to be faced ultimately with decisions—how will I experience this? How will I continue with my life? How will I create and co-create my life from this point? How am I being reminded to stay present? How am I feeling supported? Loved? Encouraged? How am I growing? What are the lessons here?

Sometimes we have more questions than answers, but fear not, in Libra season—in the season of an air sign, asking questions is important. I have asked myself a lot of questions recently, and not all of my questions have answers. At least not immediate answers. If I dwell in the what-ifs, the whys, and the how’s, I inevitably lose a lot of time, energy, and personal power. I have been learning a few important lessons. 1) To remember my own personal power. To call it back, when I have let it fly away from me, and especially when it has landed somewhere it does not belong. 2) I am learning that for a control freak like myself that control truly is an illusion, and there will always be some things that are outside of my hands. I can control myself, and the things that I have power to control, but nothing else—and definitely not people or situations that are beyond my reach. It is a heavy load to carry—trying to control that which we cannot. 3) The network of love that surrounds us is so vast, and yes, what we put out in love will always pay itself back tenfold.

You are probably curious as to the events of the summer? Maybe not, but in the light of transparency, I will share. I also share these stories and events from my own life because sometimes we think we are alone in our experiences. Then we talk to other people—in my case, sometimes I talk to the wise women (and the guys too) who dwell all around me, and they remind me that everything I am experiencing in life, in love, in my womanhood is not necessarily new. They hold space for me to process, to grieve, and to rebirth myself as many times as I need, until I can figure out once more who I am now. In the process of living we will die and be reborn to ourselves many times. Each version of who we become may require something new… or we may tap into latent treasures within ourselves that have been waiting for us to tune in.

During this past summer, I experienced the exhilarating gift of travel. I visited Greece—I can make an entirely new post about that. I went to California, Las Vegas, Charleston, and up and down the East Coast. I had a variety of reasons for traveling, but in each place, I learned something new about myself. In each place, I received unmistakable signs of the how life was supporting me. I received messages of trust, of patience, of believing in myself.

I also taught this summer in the academic setting, and despite having to pivot between virtual and in person sessions, and also bureaucracy, my students gave me the most fulfilling reviews about what they learned, and how they will carry the information forward. I was reminded of how far I had come in my own teaching journey. I remembered the beginning of my learning, when I wanted to be an expert in my field, and to be able to say that I am is pretty cool.

I saw most of my best friends. This is rare since they all pretty much live in difference places all over the world, but life worked it out, and either they came or I went. I am convinced that whoever is looking out for me knew that I would need a soft landing place—and my friends are always that and more. They are love magnified, and exemplified. They hold my heart, and I in turn hope that I can show them what a treasure it is to hold theirs.

I met new and amazing people randomly (or not), often in the most synchronistic ways and I experienced so much of the beauty of life and humanity. I have an appreciation for the bounty of America and of the world—despite all of the craziness, there is yet still so much to love and marvel about. I experienced music that lifted my soul and transported me to another realm. The realm where sound vibrates within my soul and leaves an imprint of joy that is not easily forgotten.

But I also learned about grief, pain, and listening to the rio abajo rio or as Clarissa Pinkola Estes calls it, the river beneath. The inner knowing that we carry within us on the work that we must do. We can often hear that voice within guiding us, reminding us, or alerting us to something that we yearn for deeply. She says, “This is our meditation practice as women, calling back the dead and dismembered aspects of ourselves, calling back the dead, and dismembered aspects of life itself. The one who recreates from that which has died is always a double sided archetype. The Creation Mother is always also the Death Mother and vice versa. Because of this dual nature, or double tasking, the great work before us is to learn to understand what around and about us and what within us must live and what must die. Our work is to apprehend the timing of both, to allow what must die to die, and what must live to live.” What wanted to live for me was something deep within me—my spark, my flame, my desire for a deeply fulfilling and happy life. What I had to let go of pained me deeply—a beloved relationship, and also aspects of my own self that I had outgrown. Breakups are never easy, but love never dies, even if the form of it changes; and while we honor the role that someone has played in our lives, we know sometimes that things must end. I send endings off with grace, love, and blessings, no matter how much it hurts, I hope and know that although our journey ended, that our respective paths may still unfold in the best ways.

I also experienced seeing my mother in the hospital, having suffered a “cardiac event.” There were moments when nothing else in the world mattered, just a feeling that I was not ready to be without one of my best friends. Thankfully, she recovered and we were able to share her lesson, one night in deep conversation at the hospital. She said to me that in coming close to death, she has felt more inspired to be alive, and to live fully. I saw a meme that said, “I want to be easily delighted…I want to live with an extremely low bar for delight.” I want that, and I want to live fully. I want to travel and explore, to laugh heartily with my friends, to experience the depths of the various kinds of love on offer, and I want to be comfortable with the hills and valleys of life. Through all of these experiences, my friends and family showed up and showed out as they do. My heart has been more overwhelmed by love than anything, and I do dwell in a place of gratitude.

I have also learned other lessons. Other things have come up for me—my own insecurities, my ego, my fears have also surfaced on some topics, and I have been learning more about the woman that I am right now, flaws, faults, and all. I have learned that sometimes a big heart needs healthy boundaries, that despite feelings of love, that everyone has their own free will and can do with it what they will. I am learning to go where respect, effort, appreciation, and love are being served and accepted. I am learning that no matter how much I want something, it might not be the time, or it may never be. I am growing comfortable in embracing my current timeline.

Essentially, I am still learning, still growing, still feeling my way through this life. That being said, as we enter a new season, I am excited to see what will unfold. There is so much potential in the unknown. Anyway, this has been long, but I want you to think about the coming seasons in your life with excitement and joy. There might be some nervousness of course, but you got this! We all do. May you remember how lovely and powerful you are, how much you are love and loved, and how life truly is a great balancing act between the shadow and the light. Mostly, may your path be full of more laughter than tears, joy than despair, and comfort in times when your heart needs it the most. And I hope you are able to enjoy the sunsets of life, just as much as the sunrise, and that you see the brilliance of the stars in the darkest of nights. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may it be a beautiful one indeed.

Pep Talk :)

I’m cheering for you!

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/hE2BpdB8k-o

Last week was a very busy week, and I don’t see this week being any different, however, I do have one thing that will greatly help with the week ahead. No, it is not endless meeting cancellations, or a magical wand to make all my work disappear or even better a wand that completed all the things on my to do list haha, but it is something that I think will help me immensely.

One day last week when I felt a little overwhelmed by my own to do list, and I love to make them, one of my friends sent me a Tik Tok video. For the record, I am not on Tik Tok lol, but a bunch of my friends, and they know who they are, love Tik Tok, so I get a steady stream of good videos. Admittedly, some of them are pretty hilarious, and others well, they are pretty inspirational. In this one, the “Tik Tokker” had this magnificent voice, and he said, this is a reminder that you are flipping awesome, you go out into the big wide world and find majesty and awesomeness. He said that if you find yourself being down on yourself and doubting how amazing you are, close your eyes, take three deep breaths, and realize that you are awesome.

It is amazing just how hearing those words can fill you with a sense of yes, yes, I am awesome, and yes, I can do this life thing. I think most of us are also familiar with vegan super star, Tabitha Brown, who has one of the most soothing voices on the planet. There are people out there on the planet right now who can soothe our spirit and our very soul with their presence and their words, and we are filled with gratitude for these lovely souls… but guess what?

We can also do that for ourselves. Yes, sometimes we have to give ourselves a pep talk. Sometimes we can be right in the midst of a mini storm or mini fire that needs to be put out, and we wonder, how am I going to do all of these things? Doubt can set in, and we might think we aren’t cut out to do something that we are very capable of doing. In these times, we need a pep talk.

I also think of Halls, and the brilliant marketing that they did for their cough drops. They called it a pep talk on every wrapper. Some examples were,

“Conquer today.

 You’ve survived tougher.

Don’t waste a precious minute.

Let’s hear your battle cry.

You can do it and you know it.

Don’t give up on yourself.”

I also think we can give ourselves a soothing pep talk before we even get to any of the more stressful points in our lives. I do remember talking to my former therapist, Alfonso, and he told me that some people refused to get “welmed,” let alone overwhelmed.

So sometimes the best time to give yourself a pep talk is before things get overwhelming. I might even go as far as encouraging you dear spirit to speak kindly to yourself each day. How amazing would it be if when we got up in the mornings, if we looked in the mirror and with every single fiber of our being said, “You got this!” Yes, you got this whole day, whatever comes—good or otherwise.

What if you got up each day and said, I am wiser today than I have ever been, I have more experience at life than I have ever had, and I truly deserve to be here on Earth today and every day. What if you realized that even though you have things that you consider weaknesses—and we will say, “things that you were working to develop,” that you also have your strengths. You have qualities that others admire, and even if you don’t know it, someone out there thinks you are the best thing since sliced bread. Essentially, even if no one claps for you every day, you amazing, brilliant, and capable. Christopher Robin said to Winnie Pooh and crew, ““You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” (by A. A. Milne)

That is the energy that I want you take into this week.

Look at how far you have come on the journey of life? Yes, you still have additional distance to cover, but don’t discount how many strides and steps you have taken to get here.

Look at all of the amazing things that have aligned for you to be where you are right at this moment. Look at the work that you put in, the effort, the sweat, the tears, and even if you didn’t you don’t have to actually do anything to deserve love and to be amazing, but if you did, if you were in the ring of life fighting, then please take some credit for your victories. Even moments that felt like failures added to future victories so treasure them too.

In the book Warrior of Light, Paulo Coelho says, “the warrior of light…accepts defeat as defeat and does not try to make a victory out of it, painful wounds, the indifference of friends, the loneliness or losing—all leave a bitter taste. But at these times, he says to himself…I fought for something and did not succeed. I lost the first battle. These words give him renewed strength. He knows that no one wins all the time, and he knows how to distinguish his successes from his failures.” I think it is important to highlight this. You won’t win all the time, but at least you tried something, and you can try again!

You got this!

So this week, whatever comes, you will say:

Today will be a good day, this will be a good week. I feel grateful for the experience of being alive. I am getting healthier each day. I am growing and evolving into even more of the person that I want to be. I forgive myself for doubting my capabilities. I forgive myself for speaking harshly to myself. I am brilliant, I am amazing, I am capable, I am sure of myself, I am successful, I am confident, I am powerful, I am getting better and better each day, I am getting wiser and wiser, I am an unstoppable force of nature, I have everything that I need within me, and I am pure awesomeness. I am kind, I am powerful, I am intelligent, and things can go well. I want you to say this and to mean it. Say it as many time as you need to believe it. Tell the people around you that they are awesome too. They say that a butterfly can’t see its own colors. It can’t see how beautiful it is—so if you see someone in your life who is like a beautiful butterfly, don’t be afraid to share the awesomeness. Compliment them and watch their sunshine pour out. People need reminders of their amazingness, and we should not hold that back from each other.

Let our your inner wolf 🐺

You got this! So this is the pep talk for the week ahead. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may it be a week in which you remember and know with certainty that you are a magnificent, majestic, amazing, vibrant, spirit having a human experience. May it be an amazing week indeed. Ciao.

A Moment of Serenity

A moment of serenity in the Aegean Sea…

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. How are you? Really? What word came to mind when I asked that question? Put your hand over your heart and feel the vibration from your most powerful organ. Let out a sigh, unclench your jaw, roll your neck gently from side to side and allow whatever tension you might be holding onto the opportunity to melt away from your body. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/tqVDSU-6gOA

Now I will ask again, how are you? I hope that you are well, and If the answer to that is no, then I am sending you a burst of love and hope that things turn around.

Love and hope have had it hard lately. The world has had a rough go lately.
No, thoughts and prayers are not enough for what is happening—we need action and change, but love and hope are still part of the equation. The energetic vibration of love matters even more than ever I would say. Without it—the energy of fear rules supreme. Without it, we lose our compassion, our empathy, our ability to care deeply for self, for others, and for the very planet on which we live.

We expend energy on things that ultimately create more stress for our lives. My most important message has to be that we should take action to care about the things that matter to us, but we should also be mindful about our thoughts—our mental and emotional health, and we should never give up on love.


It has certainly been a while since we were here in this space together—The sacred space that is Celestial Goodness. I hold this space for anyone reading, watching or listening that this moment infuses you with some positive vibes and an extra dose of love for whatever you are facing and feeling. The last time that I posted I had no intention of letting a long stretch of time pass between posts, but simultaneously I was running on all cylinders and feeling a growing level of exhaustion within myself.

I absolutely love to live life to the fullest and for me that means being out and about having memorable experiences and engaging with life and people. I do also enjoy the feeling of working, or creating and that can lead to some workaholicness admittedly. With all of that, maintaining relationships, keeping up with my hobbies and trying to stay sane in a world that is seemingly intent on bombarding us with tragedy, it was a lot. I also feel an internal shifting on a micro level which may have to do with this being a big birthday year for me.

Birthday cake ideas? LOL

What gets sacrificed when everything happens all at once? In my case my creative energy. I felt disconnected from myself, from the divine, and I was just able to do enough to get all the essentials done. That is surviving versus thriving. That is being reactive to life instead of proactive about it. And we want to thrive. We want rest, we want abundant creative energy, we want prosperity, we want to enjoy each morsel of life but also to know that we have a stable foundation. I knew that for what I was feeling, that I needed more than a good nights sleep. I needed deep rest, a sprinkle of adventure, and to get outside of my daily routines.

My rejuvenation came in the form of a trip with my friend Stephanie to Greece. We had many reasons for going to Greece this year; that is to say, you don’t need to leave home to carve out some serenity in your life, but if you can take a moment, if you can even take a step outside of the daily routine, you should.

With the Acropolis behind me and my adventure hat on!!


Getting to Greece saw the levels of obstacles that would make two type A control freaks mad, and yet we managed hahaha. We were rewarded with days on azure beaches, bougainvillea covered homes, jasmine scented pathways, and an endless supply of aperol spritz. Mostly, I had time without my normal responsibilities, time to sleep and nap, and time to float in the sea. The sea is probably my favorite place so I felt tranquility as I hadn’t felt in a while. When I came home recently, Partially due to jet lag, I have been going to bed early and sleeping for hours. I woke up today and could feel the effect of rest in my spirit. I also felt my inspiration returning to me. The body can feel these things and so can the soul.

So when I ask how are you doing? How are you coping? How are you rebelling against just surviving? How are you feeling joy? Grieving? Balancing? How are you coping with having so many questions right, and not enough answers, I am also hoping that you are finding ways to carve out serenity so that you can thrive. It is easier to say than it is to do, but I have found that even a few minutes looking through the window—gazing rather, taking a walk in nature, a few moments of deep breathing and centering ourselves can help to gain clarity and to feel more centered.

Sun-kissed

No that won’t help us figure everything in life out, but the little moments that we take to tend to our spirit become big moments and they have an outward impact. Our peace, our love does in fact ripple out to all of humanity. We also need our energy. Action, advocacy, being agents of change also requires energy.

Mykonos, Cyclades

As I have done in this space before, let us take a brief reprieve from everything.
Get your body in a comfortable space.
Close your eyes.
Take a deep but comfortable breath.
Take another and be aware of your breathing.
Just let yourself savor the stillness.
There is nothing pressing that needs to be done.
There is no demand on your time beyond this moment.
You can feel your heart beating.
You can feel your breath.
That is all that is required of you in this moment.
Inhale
Exhale
Inhale
Exhale
Repeat this. Be aware of your breath. How powerfully you can feel your senses. How powerfully does your heart beat. You have the strength, the resilience, the fortitude for life.
Feel gratitude for this moment. You can close your eyes at any moment and there is a space where you can find peace and serenity. Hope, tranquility, and love.
Breathe in.
Breathe out.
Gently open your eyes.
Know that you can return here at any moment.

Over the coming months, this space may transform. More content, maybe smaller more frequent pieces at times and two friends are trying to help tech challenged me put the audio in podcast form. If there’s anything you would like to see or of this content has helped you in any way—please do let me know. May the stars shine brightly over your week and May it be a beautiful week indeed.

Athens, Greece

What Do you Say when the World is Burning?

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this dose of Celestial Goodness. As always thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. I am thankful that you are here. Before we move into today’s message, I just want you to take a moment to put your hand over your heart.

Take in a deep breath, drawing air up and into your nostrils, and hold it for a count of 4. Release it by breathing through your mouth to a count of 4. Do that two more times for no other reason than connecting to your breath. I forget that even a tiny moment of deep breathing can feel like an infusion of peace, and peace is something that a lot of people could use right now. Here is the link to this week’s video: https://youtu.be/CfBsgwIP0Fo

I am not going to lie, the last few weeks have “dragged me,” as the young people say. There have been a lot of ups and downs and while I am thankful for the lessons of both, spiraling through a sea of varying emotions can feel exhausting at times. While I can generally keep going and going through it all, as I have gotten older and hopefully wiser, I try to listen to my body when it says to rest.

Thankful for the ups and the downs…

I grew up thinking that rest was a luxury, but as it turns out, it is essential. Rest is an important part of life’s equation, and an important tool in my own self-care box. I don’t always listen to myself on the topic of rest, but when I do, it always feels good. It allows me to process what is unfolding in in the world and in my own life, and allows me to figure out how best to cope, to thrive, and to maybe impart love and hope where I can.

Did you know that not all rest was created equally? Different personality types might need different types of rest. The Enneagram Coach, Steph Barron Hall, made a list of nine types of rest based on your enneagram type. Even if you don’t know your enneagram type, I think they are still helpful to remember. My primary enneagram type is 3, and so sometimes it is helpful for me to do something “unproductive.” This has been a challenge sometimes, but I always find that it helps me to feel renewed. Downtime is essential for me.

When the world feels like it is burning, it might not be possible to rest as needed, but if you are somewhere safe that allows it, I think it is helpful. You cannot pour from an empty cup, and you cannot help others if you have nothing of yourself to give. Angela Davis said, “Anyone who’s interested in making change in the world also has to learn how to take care of themselves.” If you want to discover your own enneagram type, here is a link to the test that I took (for free). https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test-eml

Nine Types of Rest (Steph Barron Hall)

  1. Time away
  2. Permission to not be helpful
  3. Something “unproductive”
  4. Connection to art and nature
  5. Solitude to recharge
  6. A break from responsibility
  7. Stillness to decompress
  8. Safe space
  9. Alone time at home
Take a break 🙂

 

I had been reflecting on the state of the world, and what I needed to do to feel energetically capable of moving through my own spaces and places, and that coincided with International Women’s Day. I saw a lot of poignant posts, and I thought about what that might mean right now in 2022. On my social media pages I wrote, “the sweet winds of spring have brought with it news of death, of personal evolutions, transformations, life, and of course the ever weighty chaos of the world. Despite it all, and maybe because of it, I am spiraling through all of the emotions. This is what it is to be a woman in these times, what it is for any of us to be part of humanity.”

On both a micro and a macro level, we are experiencing so much—on any given day we can feel joy at something that has happened, but also feel tremendous sadness at other things that might be happening. A lot of people are struggling with guilt from feeling joy or happiness while there are things that are devastating happening all around us. But there is nothing else that we can do—I don’t want to feel guilty about feeling joy just because there are things to feel outraged about. As humans we are capable of holding space for a wide range of emotions and feelings. We can honor them as they come up.

We can dance with our joy and also feel that something should be done about the injustices that we see. What does it mean to be a woman in this day and age? What does it mean to just be human? What are the things that we need to get up each day and to keep putting one foot in front of the other on this journey of life? I don’t have all of the answers, actually, I don’t have any answers.

The poet Rupi Kaur, has a beautiful poem that says, “What is the greatest lesson a woman should learn? That since day one, she’s already had everything she needs within herself. It’s the world that convinced her she did not.”

And I think that goes for everyone—we do have within us so much that can make life a beautiful thing—for ourselves and others. We have enough love, enough caring, enough kindness, enough compassion and empathy. We also have the outrage, the anger, the disgust to say no to things that are not of the world we would like to see. These days, on any given day we need the whole range of ourselves.

So in the last few weeks since we have connected in this space, I have been working, reading, grieving, loving, learning, trying to rest, and living life as best as possible. Admittedly, I sat for a long time, procrastinating on writing my blog and on adding to my channel because what do you say when the world feels like it is constantly burning? That is how it has felt and yet it was apparent to me that more than ever, it was important for me to create something for Celestial Goodness. I created this space for a time such as this. The welcome banner on my blog says, “This is a space of love and positive vibrations. It is a safe space for uplifting one’s soul.” It did not say that I would do these things only when the world felt good. Sometimes, it is in the darkest moments that we remember the coming of the dawn.

L.R. Knost wrote these beautiful words, words that I find myself sharing more and more. “Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world. All things break. And all things can be mended. Not with time, as they say, but with intention. So go. Love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally. The broken world waits in darkness for the light that is you.” And that is the message for this dose of Celestial Goodness.

There is a lot of uncertainty in the world, but we can rest on the certainties. We start small. We start where we are, with what we have, and we do what we can—for ourselves and for others around us. What might this look like? It might look like rest, like remembering to drink your water for the day, like calling a good friend to check on them, like donating to a cause that is meaningful to you. It might also look like stopping to admire the sunrise, or pausing to feel your breath. It might look like doing your best at work, but remembering that work is not all there is to your life. It might look like sharing funny memes with your friends, watering your plants, and taking small breaks from absorbing endless news cycles.

The world is going through a lot right now, and most of it is heartbreaking, but I maintain that we are all part of the larger mosaic, and if we take these actions where we are, change can ripple out—so what is it that you want the world to be? Please make it so, and please do take care of yourself. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may it be a beautiful one indeed.

Let your love ripple out…

Checking in AND Intention

I am back from Hogwarts 😛

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. It has been a while, and I appreciate your patience while I am evolving through my own life. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/5zCDUjeYAdQ

Butterfly in the sky….

I am happy that you are here, and if you are reading, listening, or watching, I do hope that something beautiful happens for you in the coming days. I also hope that you are doing well, checking in on your breathing, moving your body, resting, finding the things that bring you joy, and drinking your water. I say that to you, but I am also giving myself the same advice. On some days, it feels like we can do it all, and other days, achieving even one of these things is a major victory. Let me assure you that each day looks different for all of us, and our best looks different on different days. What might be your 100% today, is your 20% tomorrow. My mom always says, when men on earth have done their best, angels in heaven can do no better. Speaking of my mom, I got to spend some quality time with her yesterday.

Manis with my mommy!

Yesterday felt like spring. Where I live, it was a balmy 64 degrees, well, not quite balmy, but honestly, it was perfect. Winter has been dancing slowly through the weeks and yesterday felt like warmth, sunshine, and the promise of beautiful days. Despite being born in December and growing up in the frozen tundra of Wisconsin (I jest, sort of), I struggle with winter. I have had to be intentional about absorbing the lessons of winter, and about seeing the beauty in the season.

Ok, winter isn’t soooo bad…

I am reminded always of Albert Camus’s words, “My dear, in the midst of hate, I found there was within me, an invincible love. In the midst of tears, I found there was within me, an invincible smile. In the midst of chaos, I found there was an invincible calm. I realized through it all, that in the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there is something stronger, something better, pushing right back.” There are so many treasures though from winter and when you look closely and intentionally, you can see them, but at least yesterday, I was thankful that the weather reminded of me of what spring feels like.

We did not know that it would be such a nice day, but it really set the stage for a beautiful evening with my mom and younger sister. I lamented to my mom that I had not written on my blog or made a video for my channel in a few months. She was very calm in her way, and said, “You know that everything is cyclical. Whatever was going on in your personal cycle meant that your focus and attention was elsewhere. That is ok too. You always come back to the things that you love.” That really filled me with a sense of peace. We are cyclical creatures—and for those of us who have spent time learning about our personal rhythm, we know when our body is whispering to us, life instructions—instructions on what it needs. At the end of 2021, I needed to rest, to travel, to see some of my dear ones. In December, we went to Mexico for a dear friend’s wedding, and to celebrate my birthday, my love and I went to Chichen Itza.

Hand holding with my ❤
Birthday vibes 🙂 My last year in the 30s!
The observatory @ Chichen Itza…
Squishhhh you!
Valladolid, Mexico
Cenote Hubiku

It was pretty awesome and amazing in a historical sense, but also just beautiful to see. I am a huge history nerd, and I am always filled with gratitude when I get to see something that was not only built centuries ago, but that has survived so much—including surviving humans. The sunshine in Mexico, the laughter with my friends by the seaside, and getting to celebrate love, did wonders for my soul.

Someone looks like royalty 😛
Queen Heather to youuuuu lol! :p
I love a good sunrise….
Joy

After we left Mexico, we had had a short stint at home—we had some fun celebrating my love’s birthday on Christmas, went to Enchant Christmas, and an entire day of playing Unstable Unicorns with two of our favorite family members.

Familia

After that, and what felt like our millionth covid test, we left for the UK to see some of our treasured relatives that we had not seen in over two years. London during the holidays is one of my favorite experiences. We also go to visit the Harry Potter Studio tour in London, a highlight for this Gryffindor sun, Ravenclaw rising, and Slytherin moon hahaha. Another highlight was taking a walking tour of Oxford. Oxford is just a short train ride from London, so it is a worthy day trip. While I still think that I prefer the city of Bath to Oxford, it was really beautiful from an architectural perspective, and also very manageable. We rang in the New Year in the UK, and then as quickly as it began, vacation was over.

Give me an old Library door any day! LOL
The Bridge of Sighs
Oxford
Get in myyyyy belllayyyyy
Cuuuuuuuuzzzzzzy
All was Merry and Bright

At the beginning of 2022, I needed to pick up the pieces of things unfinished, sit with my planner, and think about how I wanted this year to be. All of this has been informative to my spirit, and to how I set the intention for the year ahead. Speaking of intention and intent, those two words make up the essence of what I want this year to be for me. Each year since I turned 34, I have chosen a word that helps to anchor my year. Past words have included, “balance,” “flow,” and “prosperity.” This year, I will be turning 40 years old. I sat with down with my calendar/planner and thought about what I would like to experience in this year—in the buildup to a new decade. Intent, kept coming back to me. I have a beautiful planner, the Magic of I astrological planner. Not only is it packed with great information, it is also just beautiful and feels good to touch. One of the things that I love most is that in planning for the year ahead, there were eight areas to focus on. Each area had three additional words for more inspiration.

So beautiful and yes GO BADGERS!

• Spiritual (expansion, soul, being)

• Mental (mind, learning, wisdom)

• Work (career, contribution, service)

• Love (family, relationships, connection)

• Wealth (financial goals, assets, resources)

• Social (connection, community, fun)

• Physical (health, fitness, well-being)

• Inspiration (travel, creativity, adventure)

When I thought about each area, I realized that I wanted to deepen my connections, be fully present when focused on a particular area, and to create more meaningful experiences in each area. For example, with relationships, one thing that I would like to do is to have more one-on-one conversations. In these conversations, there are no phones, nothing that draws my attention away from whoever it is that I am speaking with. One of the things that I missed the most during the pandemic was having in person conversations with my friends and family, and just really being present and not distracted while interacting with them. I look forward to doing more of that this year.

Had tea at Laduree in Georgetown with my younger sister. Intimate conversation and setting!

Another area is mental—somewhere along the way, it felt difficult to read more books, but I set a personal goal for this year, and whether through audio or reading the actual book, it is an important goal for me. There are so many things happening in the world, so much virtual and visual stimulation that I found myself unable to fully focus on reading like I use to.

Anyway, those are two of the things that are part of me being intentional in the leadup to my 40th. I do not have any hang-ups about getting older, I simply like to mark the decades—to be thankful for making it this far, and to reflect on what I have learned. What are some things that you are interested in doing this year? Is intentionality something that you have thought about? Do you have any goals for this year? I do also have other goals for this space as well, and I hope to continue to provide more uplifting content for the soul! I also want to expand my astrological practice, and will continue to do so. One of my friends has also suggested, and another has volunteered—maybe voluntold hehehe, to help transfer some of the audio into podcast files. So we will see—I am pushing even myself outside of my comfort zone and encouraging you to do the same.

The force is strong within you—-you got this!!!

Whatever you decide you want your year to look like, I hope that it will be an amazing one filled with beautiful and meaningful experiences, adventures, and insight that turns into wisdom. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may it be an absolutely beautiful one indeed!

Be Not Afraid…to Start the Thing…

Van Gogh

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this dose of Celestial Goodness. Thank you as always for joining me in this space and on this journey. It has been a while, but you have always been on my mind! It has been an extremely busy few weeks for me, but I am always thinking of cool things to share with you in this space. Thank you for your patience on the quiet weeks, and a big thank you and my deep gratitude to my friends and family who encourage me, support me, and remind me that it is ok to take a break from one thing to focus on other things. I have said it before, but sometimes I need to be reminded of my own advice. Fancy that! See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/9U0MN_6cupc

Now before I launch into the topic that has been on my mind lately, “How are you?” I mean, really, how are you? Are you hydrating? I have to confess that I fell off my water drinking, opting instead—and I say this with extreme guilt—for my favorite beverage—ginger ale. Ha. But, after many recent trips to the doctor and having blood work done, I remember why I was such an advocate for drinking lots of water to begin with. It’s so good for us. Also, before you start worrying, I am ok. The past few years have been difficult on a lot of people, and in this country where for most people health insurance is tied to work, I am very thankful for a stable career that I enjoy and along with it, good health insurance which allows me to check on my physical health as much as I need. I want to remind people that we never know what someone is dealing with. Some people, myself included are good at managing our stress, but sometimes we don’t even realize how much we are absorbing from the world, and how much what we are absorbing can be impacting our physical health.

So many uses for ginger ale lol!!

In astrology speak, my moon is in Capricorn—an earth sign—a very hard working sign, and admittedly, I enjoy work—the feeling of accomplishment, and the feeling of getting things done. It is easy to admit this because the balance to this is that I also like to play.

Anyone else?

By that I mean, I like to enjoy the experiences that life has to offer. This has manifested recently in a return to one of my favorite places—the Kennedy Center. We saw the entire Black Panther movie there, but with a twist. The National Symphony Orchestra played the entire soundtrack. There was also a special guest—a gentleman from Senegal, who played an ancient instrument—the talking drum. His music introduced the character of T’Challa. It was epic and amazing, and I cried because I am a water-bucket, and because I was so happy to be seeing live music again.

Wakanda Foreva…

My mom and I also had a mother daughter moment, and went to see Hadestown—the musical. I know the story of Orpheus and his love Eurydice, but this was a fun take on it, and the music was amazing. It also reminded me that even though I know the ending of a story, the journey to that end can be different, and interesting.

Mommy and me
Great show!

Knowing the end also won’t stop me from continuing on with something. In life I often wonder—if we knew how something would end, would we persist. I suspect that is why life is full of mystery—so that we live, because if we always knew the ending, we might be tempted to remain stationary—afraid of the sadder endings. Some of my saddest endings have made way for some of my most beautiful beginnings. So be not afraid of what life has to offer. And don’t get tied to endings; enjoy the journey. Albert Einstein said, “The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and all science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: his eyes are closed.”

Sunrise …

Some other fun things: I went to the amazing Van Gogh interactive art museum, popped up to the Basilica of the Immaculate Conception, went to the Spy Museum, went to the O street mansion where I immediately wanted to get rid of everything—it is a minimalist nightmare come to life, went for a long walk to the Tidal Basin and monuments, saw some good movies (I enjoyed Dune), and got some new books on Astrology.

Sunflowers!!!
My fav Van Gogh piece—the Night Cafe
I like black and white pictures 🙂
I agree…
FDR Memorial…still so relevant
On the CUA campus…
Basilica ceiling…
The Basilica
The Rosa Parks room at the O Street Mansion…

I also got to spend some time in nature—fall is here. It is one of my favorite seasons because the leaves are just so beautiful. The air is crisp, and there is a winding down into what is comfortable. Although things have been busy for me, I am looking forward to some downtime soon. In that time, I want to snuggle in my favorite chair, with my favorite books, and blanket. I can’t wait. We also went to Harper’s Ferry National Park, and visited one of the amazing wineries in Northern Virginia.

No man is an island…but these trees?
Shenandoah
Harper’s Ferry

It was at the winery where I had a bit of an epiphany. Virginia has well over 250 wineries, and over 100 of them are located in Northern Virginia. Yes, that means, when the 250th winery opened in that state, it knew that there were already 249 wineries, but it opened anyway.

I had a conversation with my good friend Camilla about this—you can check out her blog the Photolibrarian—but we were talking about starting things when there are already “lots of people” doing that thing. Ultimately, we agreed that if you get a vision to start something, and you are worried about market saturation, you should still give it a start. See Camilla’s blog here: https://thephotolibrarian.com

What is “market saturation,” and why should you start “the thing” anyway? According to an article from American Express, “A saturated market occurs when existing businesses meet all the current demand for a product or service. Market saturation often happens when multiple businesses are offering similar products or services to the same customers.” You can think of a marketplace overrun with people all selling or offering the same thing. Like, there being 100 wineries in Northern Virginia. I think you should still start anyway because you bring your own unique and personal touch to whatever it is that you are doing.

In my case, I started this blog and YouTube channel even though there are a million plus blogs and YouTube channels out there. You can’t look at what everyone is doing—I mean—if you are a business then you have to do your SWOT analysis, but don’t let that dissuade you. Plan, think about your end goals, and think about what you have to offer. This is the lesson that I learned from the wineries. There are so many amazing wineries in this area—they all offer the same categories of wines—reds, whites, rosés, and so forth, but they add their own touch to the grapes, the barrels in which they ferment the wine, their style, and their offerings.

On the beautiful day of our visit to Two Twisted Post winery, we had cheese and wine while sitting outside in perfect autumn weather, laughing, chatting, and sampling the different wines. The grapes were heavy on the vines, and the staff was friendly and chatty even while working hard on the next batch of reds.

The actual grapes on the actual vines!! You can volunteer to help do harvesting BTW!
Smoked Gouda and Crackers
Covid safe tasting cups…

Please do not let the fear of “well other people are doing it…” stop you from doing something. You have a lot to offer to the world, you have vision, and a unique touch that will allow the right people to come to you. Not everyone will resonate with what you have to offer, and that is ok, but we have to start somewhere. Florence Scovel Shinn said, “Do not neglect the day of small things, for little beginnings have big endings.” Everything that we consume today—from the clothes we wear to the food we eat, to our entertain and work, all started in the mind of someone—they ran with their vision. Audre Lorde said, “When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.” I am believing in this for you—so I want you to believe in you too. This long quote from Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic sums up a lot of the fears that we have! Fear not—you got this!!!

“Let me list for you some of the many ways in which you might be afraid to live a more creative life: You’re afraid you have no talent. You’re afraid you’ll be rejected or criticized or ridiculed or misunderstood or—worst of all—ignored. You’re afraid there’s no market for your creativity, and therefore no point in pursuing it. You’re afraid somebody else already did it better. You’re afraid everybody else already did it better. You’re afraid somebody will steal your ideas, so it’s safer to keep them hidden forever in the dark. You’re afraid you won’t be taken seriously. You’re afraid your work isn’t politically, emotionally, or artistically important enough to change anyone’s life. You’re afraid your dreams are embarrassing. You’re afraid that someday you’ll look back on your creative endeavors as having been a giant waste of time, effort, and money. You’re afraid you don’t have the right kind of discipline. You’re afraid you don’t have the right kind of work space, or financial freedom, or empty hours in which to focus on invention or exploration. You’re afraid you don’t have the right kind of training or degree. You’re afraid you’re too fat. (I don’t know what this has to do with creativity, exactly, but experience has taught me that most of us are afraid we’re too fat, so let’s just put that on the anxiety list, for good measure.) You’re afraid of being exposed as a hack, or a fool, or a dilettante, or a narcissist. You’re afraid of upsetting your family with what you may reveal. You’re afraid of what your peers and coworkers will say if you express your personal truth aloud. You’re afraid of unleashing your innermost demons, and you really don’t want to encounter your innermost demons. You’re afraid your best work is behind you. You’re afraid you never had any best work to begin with. You’re afraid you neglected your creativity for so long that now you can never get it back. You’re afraid you’re too old to start. You’re afraid you’re too young to start. You’re afraid because something went well in your life once, so obviously nothing can ever go well again. You’re afraid because nothing has ever gone well in your life, so why bother trying? You’re afraid of being a one-hit wonder. You’re afraid of being a no-hit wonder.”

I hope you realize how amazing you are and all of the things that you offer and have to offer. Just you being here on the planet is a gift. I also hope that this is a wonderful week for you—I hope you experience many beautiful, peaceful, and insightful moments that make you feel alive.

Believe in the me that believes in you 🙂

May the stars shine brightly over your week and may it be a beautiful one indeed! Until we meet again, dear friend, please remember to like, subscribe, comment and share. I appreciate you!

Learning a New Language

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. This week’s video is a little late but I had a busy two weeks and busy weekends. I had a very lovely time as usual, so don’t feel bad for me hahaha. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/eOXrIHrOCt0

From a recent trip to the Pumpkin Patch for Spooky Season 😀

That being said I was in a training class the week before last and my instructor asked a question that really made pause to think. She asked how many of us knew a foreign language. There were many people who knew a multitude of languages, and for some of the people in the class English was their second language. In my own life I grew up with British English as my first language and then Jamaican patois.

Jamaicans say “tree” for “three” hehehe

Some people would say that patois is a dialect but there are a multitude of words from other languages. Some sources say that patois is “a blend of African languages, English, Arawakan (the indigenous language of Jamaica), French, Chinese, Portuguese, Irish, Scottish and Spanish.” Some sources say that the primary foundation is from the Akan people of West Africa. I took this bit from Wikipedia, because the construct of patois fascinates me. It truly lives up to the Jamaican motto, “out of many, one people.” “Jamaican Patois contains many loanwords, most of which are African in origin, primarily from Twi (a dialect of Akan).[40] Many loanwords come from English, but are also borrowed from Spanish, Portuguese, Hindi, Arawak and African languages as well as Scottish and Irish dialects. Examples from African languages include /se/ meaning that (in the sense of “he told me that…” = /im tel mi se/), taken from Ashanti Twi, and Duppy meaning ghost, taken from the Twi word dupon (‘cotton tree root’), because of the African belief of malicious spirits originating in the root of trees (in Jamaica and Ghana, particularly the cotton tree known in both places as “Odom”).[41] The pronoun /unu/, used for the plural form of you, is taken from the Igbo language…Words from Hindi include ganja (marijuana), and janga (crawdad). Pickney or pickiney meaning child, taken from an earlier form (piccaninny) was ultimately borrowed from the Portuguese pequenino (the diminutive of pequeno, small) or Spanish pequeño (‘small’).”

The epic debate, “My-lo” or “Me-lo”….

Maybe it is no wonder that when I was little and someone asked what I wanted my superpowers to be, I said, “polygot.” No, I didn’t want to be able to fly or become invisible. I wanted to be able to speak with and to understand anyone, anywhere on the planet. A polygot is someone who knows and is able to use several languages. This might have been what led me to pursing learning different languages.

When I was in middle school I started learning Spanish and that led to me going to an immersion high school. In high school I studied Spanish as my main language. I also took French and Japanese. When I started college I studied Spanish as one of my majors. I also studied Japanese intensely for one year. That’s when I decided that I should probably focus more on Spanish since there were other things I wanted to major in as well, and Japanese was just a little too intense. In fact, we had to learn not one, but three alphabets, Hiragana, Katakana, and Kanji. Kanji was by far the most difficult for me. Escaping back to Spanish, my first love, was a welcome treat since I only had to deal with one alphabet that was a romance language, like English.

During college I spent time in the Dominican Republic and also in Madrid, Spain honing my language skills. So when our instructor asked us about our language skills and experience learning another language, I could do a mental flashback of my process. She reminded us that when we start learning a new language that we start with the basics—things like the alphabet, simple sentences, and numbers. But we also learn that we have to practice and we have to utilize what we learn. Repetition is one of the best ways to learn a language and also immersing yourself into that language and culture if you can. I know that this advice can be applied in many areas of our lives.

It is my opinion and it is just an opinion—that in today’s day and age, many people are used to seeing the more advanced or finished product of something. Social media may have a role in this but I do also think that a lot of humans want to start something and just be great at it. We want to be doing Picasso level art and yet if we start and jump to that place without putting in the work, the practice, the time and the focused energy we can miss some valuable and important lessons.

Do not doubt the power of humble beginnings…

I had this conversation with a friend recently. There is someone that I’ve known in my life who has never taken the time to hone a craft. Whenever they see someone doing something that brings them joy but mostly attention, this person will start to do the thing but after a while they will get bored with it. Some of that is because they find that even things that look simple on the surface can take a lot of work on the substantive level. So it is with most things in life. In Jamaica they say, “if you want good yuh nose haffi run.” Essentially, if you want good things you have to put in the work. I also think it discourages a lot of people when they don’t become an overnight sensation. I think the most common sensation is actually the person who has put in the work and keeps at it despite feeling discouraged at times.

And that is some of the lesson of learning a foreign language. Some days are going to be hard—you aren’t going to get it, you are going to say the wrong word or just not get it, but keep practicing and one day you will wake up as I did—dreaming in Spanish. There is a delightful day when you get it, you get the thing that you have been practicing. One of my favorite writers is Robert Greene. In his book, Mastery, he says that it takes 10,000 hours of doing something to become a master at it. That book has so many amazing tidbits and treasures to support you on your journey to mastering something—anything.

For example, he says, “Some 2,600 years ago the ancient Greek poet Pindar wrote, “Become who you are by learning who you are.” What he meant is the following: You are born with a particular makeup and tendencies that mark you as a piece of fate. It is who you are to the core. Some people never become who they are; they stop trusting in themselves; they conform to the tastes of others, and they end up wearing a mask that hides their true nature. If you allow yourself to learn who you really are by paying attention to that voice and force within you, then you can become what you were fated to become—an individual, a Master.”

Who’s the Master? Sho Nuff (From the Last Dragon)

And this one, “Think of it this way: There are two kinds of failure. The first comes from never trying out your ideas because you are afraid, or because you are waiting for the perfect time. This kind of failure you can never learn from, and such timidity will destroy you. The second kind comes from a bold and venturesome spirit. If you fail in this way, the hit that you take to your reputation is greatly outweighed by what you learn. Repeated failure will toughen your spirit and show you with absolute clarity how things must be done.”

My coworker’s plant 🙂

But I really love this one, “In the future, the great division will be between those who have trained themselves to handle these complexities and those who are overwhelmed by them — those who can acquire skills and discipline their minds and those who are irrevocably distracted by all the media around them and can never focus enough to learn.” So, I suppose this is my challenge to you—what are you a master at? What is something that you can apply time, focus, and some intensity to learning beyond a superficial level? What is the thing that you feel passionately enough about that even when it feels like the odds are against you that you will keep going? I want you to think about it, and then I want you to do it. One step at a time.

Be like the Karate Kid lol

Now, you might be wondering, how is she going to find a way to tie in astrology hahaha. You knew it was coming. Astrology contains its own language. It requires time, focus, and practice to get good at it. So the same rules apply. When you learn the basics, the alphabet, the numbers and the symbols then you can converse in the language. Most people who look at their birth chart for the first time feel overwhelmed because they see symbols, numbers, and lines that don’t make sense. However it is all about the language of astrology and it’s a beautiful one—as melodic as the Romance languages falling off the tongue. So a quick introductory class to some of the symbols that you might see when looking at a natal chart. 

You will see:

· The natal chart

·        The planets 

· The houses

· The signs

Once you get a little bit more familiar with these symbols, then you will be able to start to understand the language of astrology. We will get into that more in the coming weeks, but I just wanted to say a few words about the lessons that come from learning another language. Sam Altman said, “Hard work compounds like interest, and the earlier you do it, the more time you have for the benefits to pay off.”

Believe in the me that believes in you!!! You got this 🙂

So practice, take your time, don’t be discouraged, and above all, just keep going. May the stars shine brightly over your week and may it be a beautiful week indeed! Let me know in the comments what you are attempting to master or have already mastered. Maybe it’s another language! And as always, if you are enjoying the blog posts and/or videos, please like, share, comment, and subscribe. Thank you!

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