Clean Space, Clean Mind… Preparing for new seasons…

Hello beautiful people and welcome to this week’s dose of Celestial Goodness. Thank you as always for joining me in this space and on this journey. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/JpqklUE8W4M

August has been one of those months that has felt like several months packed into one. I sat down recently to look back over my calendar, and to see what things need to carry over into September, and I was really amazed at how much happened. I will make another video/post on that another time. Each month, I like to plan out some goals for the next month. This has been a very cool way for me to keep organized, anchored, and it serves as a great tool for remembering some of the things that I have done—both for my personal and professional life.

Now in August, I kept saying to myself, “Oh wow, that did happen, just last week!” Or, “I can’t believe that it has been three weeks already.” From learning astrology, and from just being on the planet for as long as I have now hahaha, I know that life can be like that—sometimes it feels like nothing is happening, but then at other times it feels like everything is happening all at once. Paulo Coelho said, “Life has a way of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all, or having everything happen all at once.” So August felt like a month with a lot of good reminders about life in general, lessons, blessings, and shifting tides.

High tea at the Empress in the Mandarin Oriental…an August highlight…

 

A few lessons from August:

·      Sometimes you need support. My houseplants remind me of this all the time. We need other people. Thank you to my people for infusing my life with love. 

·      Life will one day end. I had a dear relative pass away in the last month, and her burial was in August. Death always reminds me that this life is temporary. How are we deciding to show up in life?

· There is a quote that says, “Don’t let others pull you into their storm, pull them into your peace.” I would alter that a little to say, just don’t let them pull you into their storm. You don’t have to pull them into your peace, but don’t leave your peace for them.

·      Laughter and love are always healing, soothing, and necessary. There is so much power in a hug, so much joy in laughing with people, and so much peace in knowing that we are love and loved. 

So I say, “Thank you August for your lessons and blessings.” Now I am looking forward to September and to the fall. Gregory David Roberts said, “For this is what we do. Put one foot forward and then the other. Lift our eyes to the snarl and smile of the world once more. Think. Act. feel. Add our little consequence to the tides of good and evil that flood and drain the world. Drag our shadowed crosses into the hope of another night. Push our brave hearts into the promise of a new day. With love; the passionate search for truth other than our own. With longing; the pure, ineffable yearning to be saved. For so long as fate keeps waiting, we live on.” And we do keep living on, through whatever seasons we enter next.

I love all the seasons, because they have different things to look forward to, but this year, I am greatly anticipating the fall. I am looking forward to apple cider, the crisp but damp smell of the leaves in early October, sweater weather, and just the inward vibes that fall seems to bring with it. How do you know when you are transitioning into a new season of your life? What are the signs for you? I think that in the same way that seasons change, we can also feel when something is shifting in our personal world. I read a quote somewhere once that said, “Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our greatest direction.”

From an astrological standpoint, we are currently in Virgo season. That statement will mean different things to different people, but since Virgo is a mutual sign, it means that we are in an in-between. Mutual signs—Pisces, Gemini, Virgo, and Sagittarius prepare us for the next season. Pisces comes before Aries, astrologically that is the beginning of Spring. Gemini before Cancer, and the beginning of Summer, Virgo before Libra, and the beginning of Fall, and Sagittarius before Capricorn, and the beginning of winter. In that sense, these time periods in our year are not just a sign of the changing season, but also a sign that something is ending. I have a whole blog and video on the beauty of letting go, so this is not about that. Rather I have been thinking about how we welcome the changing seasons, and how we welcome change in our own lives.

Behold, my Virgo mummy in all her glory! ❤

Also, having a Virgo mother who woke me up a lot on weekends to clean up—listening to her favorite oldies—I think that the simple act of cleaning up is one of the most powerful ways to welcome a change and to let something go. When I was growing up I was a pretty messy kid, but my mom was not. She was pretty organized, and like things to always be “in their place.” She drilled this into my head, and I think over time it really settled in. Even when I went to live on my own, I still would try my best to make sure that things were organized. Over time, this has evolved into me wanting things to be neat and orderly, and I can see the lessons and blessings from this. Mind you, I am not the neatest person that I know. I know several incredibly orderly people, who always have everything in place and who are immaculate in their ability to keep their space and their lives in some orderly and consistent manner. Admittedly, I am more cyclical. There are some spaces that will always be extremely neat (living room, bathroom, and kitchen for example), and organized (lessons from mommy), but then I might have clothes pile up in the basket, and then I have to take care of them type cyclical. Papers might need sorting on my desk, type cyclical.

A stock image lol, but mom’s ideal living room. Organized! LOL

Over the years, there are some important things that I have learned from my friends about cleaning and organization. Gretchen Ruben said, “Outward order contributes to inner calm,” and another powerful quote is, “Once you learn how to see how your inner turmoil manifests itself through your surroundings, you can reverse engineer this, mastering yourself by mastering the space in which you live.”— Shoukei Matsumoto, A Monk’s Guide to a Clean House and Mind. I believe it. Whenever things around me are disorganized, it almost feels like I can’t think properly. I feel like I need to organize so that I can function better. Clean your space, clear your mind. It is also easier to find things. I read somewhere that when things are out of place, people lose hours trying to find important papers—even their glasses. And it is also cost efficient to stay organized. Why? You don’t go out buying things that you already have!

So while I am no Marie Kondo, I would make the suggestion that in anticipation of a new season coming, and possibly a new personal season for your own life, that it is time to do a little “fall cleaning.” It is time to make room and make space for new blessings. 

Some tips:

· You don’t have to do everything all at once. Start with one room or space, and then cross that off your to do list. Along these same lines, it might be a useful tip to spread this out over time. Instead of trying to do everything on the weekend, maybe commit an hour or two to one room/space/task during the weekday.

In my office… a space that I try to keep organized pretty regularly…

·      Put things back in a specific place and commit to training yourself to putting and keeping things in their designated space.

·      Dust regularly. This is probably the lowest hanging fruit, but as someone with asthma, it is also essential and makes a difference.

· Use music to help motivate you. All those years ago when mommy would put on a certain playlist, I already knew it meant cleaning time. But singing along helped the process.

·      Remind yourself that someone out there could use some of the things you don’t need or use anymore. Trip to Goodwill anyone? 

·      My younger sister has a rule, one in one out. If you bring in something new, she is all about getting rid of something else to help create less clutter. I am not quite there yet, but it seems to be a concept that works for some people.

·      Solicit help. If it is within your means to do so, you might decide to pay for some cleaning services, or even get someone you care about to help. You can also use different smart gadgets to help you stay organized, and to clean up! 

· Just start, and if you fall off the cleaning/organization wagon, just start again. You got this!

 

I will say that I also had to look deep within myself once and acknowledge why I was holding on to certain things. Based on the way in which I grew up, there was an internal fear that we might run out of something. Or that I had to hold on to things like clothes or shoes and wear them till there was nothing left. Once I got older and had the ability to not have to do some of those things, I realized that it did impact some of why I hung on to things. Sometimes we have to let things go to make room for the things that we do want. If no one has told you this ever, let me say it. The universe is expansive and abundant, and you will be taken care of. You can let go of the ten thousand plastic bags you have under the sink or in that cabinet. Truly, it is ok. So, all of this is to say that I feel the winds of change coming in, I feel fall coming in, and I think it is a good time to think about what that might mean for my own life. To aid that along, I might spend some time deep cleaning, throwing some things out or donating some items, and then prepare myself for something else coming in.

These were just pretty! :p

As we move into the next week, I hope that you will feel more organized, and also more prepared to handle the next season of your life. May the stars shine over your week, and may it be a beautiful one indeed. If you are liking these posts and videos, please do like, share, comment, and subscribe. Also, feel free to share any of your cleaning or organizational tips! Thank you.

Minor Inconveniences…

Thinking about the world…

Hello beautiful people, and welcome to this week’s dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. I appreciate your time and your presence. So, I wasn’t sure whether I would be able to summon the energy to write something this week and to film my video. Something happened on Thursday that I am still grappling with, and it seems a bit surreal that I am taking it so seriously, while the world seems to carry on as though this event was just another day in the office. I don’t want to make a mountain from a molehill, but yet, my mind keeps wandering back to Thursday. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/EzVyLSgSs7g

On Thursday morning, I woke up and went out to the living room to greet the sun. Our apartment has great views of the East and the West, so I am fortunate enough to be able to see some beautiful sunrises, and sunsets.

In the wee hours of the morning when the rest of the world is sleeping, and I can hear some gentle and not so gentle snores from you know who—Plant daddy lol, I get my coffee or tea, talk to the plants, and just marvel at the magnitude and magnificence of nature. Each day is like witnessing a painting. In these precious quiet moments of the morning, I can hear myself think. I can feel my heart beating, and I can be reminded of the beauty of it all, even when the world might wake up later, and try to get me to think otherwise.

So, as it was on Thursday morning, I drank some tea, and then went to take my shower. I have a eucalyptus bundle hanging in the shower, so everything steams up and smells so good. I had to remind myself that I was in fact, not commuting to my home office, but to my actually workplace, and I needed to hurry. It took me a while to get ready, and then I realized that I might miss the train/metro that I planned to take. I felt agitated and a little annoyed. Since the pandemic, the morning trains were running every 17 minutes, and on my line, they were single tracking. I remembered that before the pandemic, the morning trains came every 3-4 minutes. I sort of admonished myself for feeling inconvenienced, when much of the world had been greatly turned upside down by the pandemic. This was just a minor inconvenience.

I walked over to the metro, across a small bridge, and a bubbling brook—leaves were scattered everywhere from a recent storm, and I had to be careful where I walked—another minor inconvenience. There is a small hill on my path to the metro, and I lamented a little how because of the mask that I was wearing, I was literally huffing and puffing, and nearly worked my way into an asthma attack. But really, this was a minor inconvenience. I had my inhaler, and honestly, wearing my mask was not that big of an ask. I made my way to metro, and looked up at how long I had to wait for the train—7 minutes. When it came, I was able to find a seat. I remember how in the before times, the train at this stop would be packed with people. I wondered; would we ever go back to that? I don’t know. I have to change trains, and when I did, I just missed one, and the next one was delayed. I felt annoyed. Why aren’t the trains running timely? I felt inconvenienced.

What I imagine crossing the creek to get to metro… (not what I actually see lol)

But I did not need to be in a hurry. I made it safely to work, and chit chatted with coworkers—some who I had not seen in almost 16 months, and got settled in for the day. All of my concerns at that point were about work things—how is the technology, what is my team doing, where should I start that day on my projects, did I have any meetings, where would my friends and I go for lunch? In the middle of a meeting, we started getting alerts that one of the buildings on our campus was being evacuated for a suspicious vehicle. Being on the Capitol complex, means getting alerts all the time for random things, but this felt serious, and it was triggering. Many people that I know still see alerts and think about the events of January 6th. It is never far away from my mind, and so these alerts brought it front and center.

On a calmer day…

The next several hours unfolded very quickly, and while I was pretty calm, when I made it home, I found that I was trembling—shaking, and very cognizant that the day could have taken a turn for the worse. Long story short, a man came up to the Capitol Complex, parked in front of my workplace, and threatened to blow up two+ city blocks. While some of us were able to evacuate, some coworkers had to remain in the building because of directions from the police as the situation unfolded. My coworkers and I were calm and everyone truly cared about the well-being of everyone else. My phone was filled with messages from friends, family, and acquaintances about the unfolding situation, and whether my colleagues and I were okay. Once we were out of the building, we walked far away, wondering about our coworkers still in the situation, but also relieved to be out of harm’s way.

Thank you for your messages ❤

I saw online that some people didn’t believe that it was real, some called it a distraction for what was going on in Afghanistan, and the rest of the world, and some people later would say, “well they got him, and he didn’t have much in the car. It wouldn’t have done anything.” It was very real to me, and I can’t help but wonder, what if he did have tons of explosives in the vehicle and decided to detonate. Would my loved ones know how much I cared? Would my life have mattered here? Would I have left a positive impact on this planet? I don’t want to dwell on the incident, because this post isn’t about that. It is more about how all of the minor inconveniences of the day, melted away in the face of potential danger. It is about how when faced with “what ifs,” the things that I thought about—the important things in my life really did come to the forefront. It also made me look at my minor inconveniences in a new light. There is a Taoist fable that goes like this:

A farmer had only one horse. One day, his horse ran away.

His neighbors said, “I’m so sorry. This is such bad news. You must be so upset.”

The man just said, “We’ll see.”

A few days later, his horse came back with twenty wild horses following. The man and his son corralled all twenty-one horses.

His neighbors said, “Congratulations! This is such good news. You must be so happy!”

The man just said, “We’ll see.”

One of the wild horses kicked the man’s only son, breaking both his legs.

His neighbors said, “I’m so sorry. This is such bad news. You must be so upset.”

The man just said, “We’ll see.”

The country went to war, and every able-bodied young man was drafted to fight. The war was terrible and killed every young man, but the farmer’s son was spared, since his broken legs prevented him from being drafted.

His neighbors said, “Congratulations! This is such good news. You must be so happy!”

The man just said, “We’ll see.”

We will see…

I feel that sometimes what inconveniences us can be looked as bad by some, but in other situations, it might be leading to something good. Thursday was filled with inconveniences. I didn’t get to do the work I planned that day, or to have lunch with my good friend as planned. But I did get a speedy reminder to appreciate this life because it is so fragile. I considered myself as someone who loves life anyway, but I felt gratitude to be able to make it home and hug my love, and to tell my family and friends once again that I loved them. I took the next day off, but I was a little agitated. Everything seemed to go on as though nothing happened.

I needed time to process the trauma, and I will give myself the space and grace to do that as it rises up in my mind. I won’t let the fear of what ifs, prevent me from living—from going to work, or from doing anything, but I felt the stress and the anxiety building in me from this. I suppose like the farmer in the fable, I will have to see… I know though, that I do feel more inclined to take time for myself, to tell the people that I love how much I love them, and to savor everything that feels like joy, like happiness, like love.

My message today is that life can bring the unexpected, we can feel inconvenienced, and yet, out of all of that, there might be some nugget of a reminder that we can’t take anything for granted—most of all life itself. I hope that wherever you are this week that the stars shine brightly over you, and that as one friend said to me, that you walk in the light, and that you are protected from the ills of the world.

I shared this quote from L.R. Knost on my Instagram page, and with my team after the incident, but it is worth repeating. “Do not be dismayed by the brokenness of the world. All things break. All things can be mended. Not with time, as they say, but with intention. So go, love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally. The broken world waits in darkness for the light that is you.” For everything wrong in the world, I do believe there are always people who will and who are rising to the occasion. You may not see them, but they are there—doing, helping, changing, and casting a loving light on a world that needs it so very much. If you don’t see it, remember that you can always be it.

One small step at a time, will take you further than you ever knew possible. May you be blessed, protected, and may there be divine intervention and intercession wherever it is needed now. Thank you.

We are all just Houseplants :)

Hello beautiful people and welcome to another dose of Celestial Goodness. As always, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. I appreciate your time and your presence. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/7Gj0PYT8u3c

My succulents 🙂

So, one of my dreams is that my space be filled with beautiful, luscious, green plants that are all over. Sort of like the rain forest, without the snakes lol! I love plants, and I love to see that pop of greenery because it enhances any aesthetic. I also truly believe that plants just do something for the heart, the mind, and the soul. There are actually studies that have been done to corroborate this. Having indoor plants can do all of the following:

• Boost your mood—some say that having indoor plants actually makes you happier. The natural aesthetic beauty from the plants helps to calm the nerves, and adds to making your environment feel more like a sacred space and a peaceful sanctuary away from the rest of the world.

• Research has shown that having plants reduces stress—both physiological and psychological.

Chopper and Vegeta 🙂

• They purify the air—The air inside of our home can be filled with toxins that can cause allergies, headaches, and other health issues. Plants can help to remove these toxins that include carbon monoxide, formaldehyde, benzene and trichloroethylene. NASA did a study on foliage houseplants and said, “Both plant leaves and roots are utilized in removing trace levels of toxic vapors from inside tightly sealed buildings. Low levels of chemicals such as carbon monoxide and formaldehyde can be removed from indoor environments by plant leaves alone, while higher concentrations of numerous toxic chemicals can be removed by filtering indoor air through the plant roots surrounded by activated carbon. The activated carbon absorbs large quantities of the toxic chemicals and retains them until the plant roots and associated microorganisms degrade and assimilate these chemicals.” You can find the link here: https://ntrs.nasa.gov/citations/19930073015

• They also increase humidity which is actually good for us. Plants release water—moisture vapors into the air which increase the humidity of the air around them. This can help fight against colds, respiratory illnesses, and dry coughs.

One of my favorite views. Two of these plants were gifts from family & friends!

• They mean something special. Often some plants come with a certain association—some are said to increase your household abundance, while some are signs of friendship, love, and peace.

New pothos and unicorn 🙂

• Some research says that plants may help you heal. People recovering from illness who were more surrounded by greenery healed faster than those who had no plants around them. Google it for yourself!

• Plants have been shown to help boost productivity.

• They look so good! They really add to the beauty of a space!!!

Our fern. So pretty!

Let me add a little disclaimer, that before getting certain plants, you should do your research. This is because you may have allergies, you might have pets—some plants are harmful to pets, and depending on where you live, some plants may have a propensity towards attracting pests, mold, and insects.

Now all of this wasn’t just to sell you on getting a house plant haha, rather, I made an observation while I was watering some of our plants. Yes, I said, some of the plants. That is because not all of the plants needed water at that time. Once upon a time, I would have overwatered each plant in my space, thinking, “Isn’t this what you need? Lots of water and some light?” Well it turns out that not every plant needs the same thing. As I have been learning from my love who I jokingly call “plant daddy” lol—I can actually hear him saying, “I am not, I just find out what each plant needs, and does that…” ok, so he’s still essentially a plant dad. Am I right?

Loved this pot…

Yes, so, apparently, each plant needs something different. Some of our plants savor the sunlight—they just soak it up. Some plants prefer the shade, or cooler darker places. This might be because in their natural habit, they sat on the forest floor under a canopy of trees and they didn’t get much light. That situation created the conditions under which they thrive, and so sticking them in a lot of light is no bueno. I also realized that some plants barely need any water to survive, while some need tons of it. You can tell when you have been overwatering a plant, or exposing it to the incorrect conditions for its existence, by how it looks. Maybe it has wilting leaves, or it won’t hold water, or the tips of the leaves are turning brown. It doesn’t mean one plant is better than another, it is simply about what conditions that particular plant needs to exist.

Lucky bamboo

One lesson that I learned from “PD” was that we also need to repot the plants when their roots start to grow too much. If they stay in the small cramped place, their roots will overtake all of the soil, and the plant will die. In one attempt to save one of our plants from such a fate, we got the correct soil, and when he took the plant out of the original container, I could see the roots had tightened together. After we repotted into a larger container with healthy soil, I could see the drastic change in the plant.

Roots need space to grow…

Humans are similar to plants. All during the pandemic, I have seen a meme floating around that says that humans are essentially houseplants with more complicated emotions. Treat us right, and we grow. Treat us poorly and we will wilt away. So I suppose this dose of Celestial Goodness, is not only convincing you to get some more plants into your life, but to also realize that there are some important lessons that we can learn from our houseplants.

• Sometimes you just need some sunlight…but other days, it is ok to be in the shade, curled up in your blanket, reading a good book. As we learn from the plants, do what you need to do for your to thrive.

One of my favorites 🙂

• Sometimes you need to be repotted. You may have grown beyond a place, people, or a situation. It is ok to realize that you need a larger sea to swim in, or a bigger pot to grow in. You also need to be in the right soil. You need to be in the right place for you. Not doing any of these things can actually be detrimental to your existence.

• There can be too much of a good thing. There can be too much water, too much sunlight. Even things that we perceive as good, can become not so good when we have too much of it. *Insert chocolate, ice cream, and other things here* LOL.

• One of my favorite life lessons. It is ok to let go. Plants let go of dead leaves all of the time. But as people, we love to hang on to things that we should let go. I am just saying that it is ok to fight for things we love—as the song says, we gotta know when to hold them, know when to fold them, and know when to walk away.

Reaching for the sun

• Sometimes you need some support. My sister got some morning glories from one of our good friends who has the green thumbs of all green thumbs. Both of them put their morning glories against plant trestles. The morning glories needed something to support their growth. We need our network, we need other people, because some days are rough and you need someone to lean on.

• One thing can grow from something else. I learned that you can cut a piece of a viny plant like the pothos and place the cut piece in some water, and it will also grow. I love that. Sometimes we have a good idea, and it might not be the time for it yet. But in the future, we may find that it can grow from something else that we do. No experience is wasted.

Loved the colors

I think plants are beautiful, and they just add so much to a space. I talk to our plants, and ask them to grow. I ask if they are happy, and if they are getting everything that they need. Sometimes I feel like I can hear them whispering back. I have to give a shoutout to all of the amazing people that I know who are plant lovers and who have green thumbs. And also to the people who like me are learning, and who hopefully our love of these magnificent blooms will help us overcome any obstacles we face on our plant journey.

Being like every other Caribbean person with an aloe in the house lol!

If you have any good tips, please feel free to share them! I hope that in the week ahead, you will find the things that help you to thrive, whether it is more support, sunlight, or water. May it be abundantly beautiful, and may the stars shine brightly over your week. Please remember to like, share, comment, and subscribe if you are enjoying the blog and videos. Thank you!

Knots

Hello beautiful people and welcome to your weekly dose of Celestial Goodness. Well intended to be weekly, but alas, the last month has been one for the books. I think I have been through every emotion possible—we had a death in the family of a dear relative in Jamaica. Often I find myself looking through the window and thinking about her life. She always encouraged me to be my best, and for that I will always be grateful. I have also been moving—physical moving from the place where I spent most of the pandemic, and from my home that I have known for many years. I learn a lot whenever my life has a transition point, and this time around is no different. As my newest life chapter unfolds, I am looking forward to sharing lessons that I learned in this space with all of you. So, as always and even more than before, thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey. I appreciate your time and your presence.

Evening sky from the new place… up in the clouds!

So knots. If you are like me, you’ve encountered at least one in your life, whether literally or figuratively. When I started writing this up, I initially said that I wouldn’t say consider myself an expert in untangling knots but that after some reflection on some of the situations that I have been in my life, I am at a minimum above average in untangling a mess. Haha. You can see this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/M4wiLMcACPE

Recently, I had to sit and untangle some of my jewelry. I have no clue how jewelry manages to tangle up. It’s almost like the pieces come alive and say “hey do you want to tango with me,” and in the middle of steamy jewelry tango they get so entangled that it seems impossible to untangle them. In this case, I had gotten lazy to pack a handful of jewelry for travel in the way that I normally pack them. I have a travel pill container and instead of pills, I put each necklace or ring in its own little pod. This usually means that nothing gets tangled. It’s brilliant. Of course did I do that? No, absolutely not, that would have been too easy—that would have been too much like right.

So yea, I hadn’t done that. Instead, I just threw all of the jewelry into a little bag together and kept it moving. So much to my chagrin—when I was ready to wear them, they were tangled up in knotty bliss. I ended up finding two necklaces and two brackets tangled together in an impossible knot. My first thought was one of despair. How did this happen? Should I blame the jewelry for being naughty? No, in reality it was my own fault. Maybe I should cut the necklace? Or one of the bracelets. Well that wasn’t practical. I actually got the scissors to try and cut one of the bracelets—but I saw that embroiling the scissors would leave it’s sharp edges jagged.

There is a lesson here. If you are like the scissors—you come to realize in life that even if you seemly have the ability to cut away another persons problems that sometimes you entangling yourself only serves to cause you harm. Sometimes you need to stay out of another’s entanglement. Sometimes you have to let what’s unfolding in another’s life play out so that they can learn the lessons that they need to. Back to the knot—also a product of my own creation. Like some of our life problems are, right? I saw the red flags. I knew that if I put these jewelry together this could happen, and it did. Sometimes we see the red flags and yet we continue on with something. But again, back to the knot. I sighed and looked at the knot deeply. Where do you even begin? I looked at each part of the knot and then began to see where things could be loosened. Once I did that I was able to follow the end of one necklace and focus on that part. Sometimes we have to give a problem our intense and intentional focus. I worked on one section at a time. Slowly, mumbling to myself at first, but then I zoned into the task at hand.

What did I learn? Sometimes to clear a knot you have to let go. Yes letting certain parts of the mess fall naturally showed where things had slack—these were areas begging to be loosened and the areas that were the most easy to resolve. At other places I needed to tighten the area. In all stages of this I had to be patient. The problem with this knot was that it was multiple smaller knots that added up to the larger knot. Taking care of small problems before they become too big can actually help to prevent problems from getting worse.

There was also a major lesson in patience for me. The minute that I thought I was close to untangling my mess and got impatient I made another knot. Frustration begats frustration. If you need to walk away and come back to the issue, sometimes that is what you need to do. Apply this to relationships and to any situation in your life. A cool head can prevent many a crazy situation from escalating. Patient application, learning by trying—seeing what worked and what did not and then having the willingness to try new solutions helped immensely. As I sat doing this I realized that life operates in a similar fashion. We might find ourselves entangled in some knotty mess. Maybe it’s because we were negligent on something or maybe we chose to ignore the red flags that this the situation could unfold in the way it did. Sometimes we just find ourselves in the middle of something. In the time that I have been alive I learned that many problems are solvable—someone I heard once said “everything is figureoutable.” I agree—with effort and patience we can figure things out. If you find that one thing doesn’t work don’t be afraid to try something else.

Eventually you will free the knot and hopefully learn a good lesson in the process.

Smiles from me to you!

And yes, sometimes the lesson is that some things you have to let go. There is courage in that. I hope that if you have a problem this week that you are able to find the best solution for you and for your life. May the stars shine brightly over your week and May it be a beautiful week indeed! And if you are liking these blog posts and videos, please do subscribe, like, share, and leave comments. I would love to hear from you. Thank you!