A Weekend to Rest :)

Hello beautiful people!

This week’s very short video: https://youtu.be/EcsGoW8zXG4

This past week was very emotionally, mentally, and to some extent physically draining for me. That compounded with a Full Moon on Thursday that made me feel soooooo sleepy omg!!! And then the Mercury Retrograde started on Saturday. Because I am constantly telling everyone to take care of themselves, I know when I also need to follow my own advice. This weekend, I am decompressing, napping, and recharging my energies. Thank you for respecting that, and supporting me in honoring the signs from my body and spirit to recharge.

Mercury Retrograde transits are excellent times for rejuvenating, resting, recharging, and just recentering mind, body, and spirit. Please take care of yourselves. The last year, and this past month have been intense. The world needs you… so take care of you! 🙂 Celestial Goodness will be back next weekend with more on the Sacral Chakra! In the meantime, please feel free to check out/ catch up on some of the amazing videos—meant to inspire and uplift the soul that are already up on my YouTube Channel, Celestial Goodness 1111. Thank you, and as always, may the stars shine brightly over your week…and may you feel rested and recharged.

Videos that may interest you:

Earthing—grounding: https://youtu.be/01RUU0L_2Qk

Mediation: https://youtu.be/ceNbAtBbJyg

Air Element and Surviving the Mercury Retrograde: https://youtu.be/PObRDbrK9xs

Gratitude: https://youtu.be/NgUz4KrlvyI

Shake Your Root Chakra

Muladhara

Last week we started our conversation about the Chakras. If you can’t tell, I have a deep appreciation for the chakra system, and how learning about the chakras helped to transform my own life. It has created for me, an awareness that balance is an important and essential part of our existence. I also have an appreciation for the wisdom of free will that allows us to make choices to do and to be better. I think that even having a small amount of wisdom about this system can be helpful on your life path; I think it is especially helpful if you are being intentional about your health, wealth, and overall well-being. As always, the librarian in me encourages you to do your own supplementary research. There is so much that we simply won’t have time to cover. Check out this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/N2lZrFfN4jk

This week we start the journey of looking deeply at each individual chakra. We will cover the basics, and then I will provide a few tips on how to keep your chakras balanced and in alignment. There are important lessons attached to each chakra, and hopefully, some of the material will resonate with your soul. It is also my wish that you will be able to use some of these tools for helping to align your chakras as you travel your life path—not just today but onward into the future. As Arianna Huffington said, “The journey toward self-discovery is life’s greatest adventure.”

Mini Disclaimer: I should also add that learning about the chakras could be triggering. What do I mean by that? I mean that there might be things that come up that you do not feel comfortable addressing or confronting within yourself. I didn’t like to hear that I needed to be better with my budget, or that I had fears of abandonment, but there they were. It hurts to confront the things within ourselves that we would rather hide from the world, but tell me, what is the benefit for you in holding on to those things? You all know that I am a big believer in therapy—and I am a big believer that nothing can be healed until it is faced. There are no perfect humans, just people out there trying to do their best. Open your heart and your mind to what is possible for you. I believe in that for you. I believe in the alignment of your chakras and all the deliciousness of life that comes with that!

We start with the first chakra—the root chakra. The Sanskrit name for the Root Chakra is “Muladhara.” This word breaks down into, Mula, which means “root” and adhara means “support” or “base.” The literal translation is the root and basis of existence. It is depicted as a red four-petal lotus flower with yellow accents. This chakra is probably the most important because it is the foundation on which all others rest. If you have ever seen Maslow or Jung’s hierarchy of needs, the root represents safety and the physiological levels that form the foundation of the pyramid of needs. At the most basic is our need for food, clothing, shelter, affection, and security of our health and resources.

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When I think of the root chakra, I immediately think about the things that give me a sense of security. A cup of hot tea, comfort foods, knowing that my bills are paid on time, my favorite blanket when I need to be snug, and a hug from my love. I think of physical security, emotional security, and financial security. When I began my chakra journey, my root chakra was not in a good place at all. Looking back, I can see that my sense of security and stability had been devastated through inner and outer events. For example, there were parental issues that I had never healed or addressed within my internal life. On the external front, I had gone through a divorce, and the entire nation was struggling through economic downturn. I was constantly worrying about everything, especially finances. How was I going to do x, y, and z?  Let me just say that as a semi-reformed worrier, worrying does not add anything beneficial to the mix. In fact, it can create unnecessary stress that can even cause physical pain, and not to mention the time we waste in worrying. You could best use that time to either rest (really rest is amazing), or coming up with other creative solutions to whatever is bugging you. Did I also mention divine assistance is always an option?  

Going back to what I was saying, the foundations on which I had built my life were coming apart at the seams, and I had to do something. I had built the foundations of my life on sand, and when the waters of life rose up to that level, everything seeped away. However, there was a lesson there—build it again, but on stronger material. Some of that material has to come from within us—not from things of the external world. The root chakra reminds us of this—that the foundation must be strong. Sadhguru said, “Unless the muladhara is stabilized, one will not know health, wellbeing, and a sense of stability and completeness.”

Last week I mentioned that the root chakra is located at the base of the spine. It is one of three chakras along with the sacral and solar plexus chakra that represent matter, the physical realm, and the human self—our physical, emotional, and mental bodies. These three are connected to the higher three spiritual chakras—the throat chakra, the third eye, and the crown chakra by the heart chakra.  

The root chakra represents safety, security, and stability. My good friend Mr. Rishi taught me that the root chakra governs birth issues, survival patterns, generational patterns and issues with money, food, and health. It is our survival center; our primal animal nature is to survive. It is also the trust that we place in our caregivers and parents as infants. There is a belief that if food, water, love, and affection are withheld at that early stage of our lives, then blockages could arise. I read somewhere that the energy of Root chakra allows us to harness courage, resourcefulness and the will to live during challenging times. Root chakra connects us with the spiritual energies of our ancestors, both their challenges and their triumphs.

Anything that threatens our basic survival—such as war, natural disaster, the effects of a global pandemic—these are all things that can cause imbalances to the root chakra. I have thought about the root chakra of the collective a lot this past year, because so many people have had their lives upended due to the pandemic. I have discovered that in the most trying times, we have to tap into our greatest source of inner strength, but we must also be gentle with ourselves and afford some grace to the fact that most people are doing the best they can do under the circumstances, which they find themselves. It is our work to take responsibility for our own lives and sometimes just an awareness that something is off can be a powerful starting point. 

Imbalances with the chakras can have both physical and emotional/mental manifestations. Some imbalanced attributes of the root chakra are scattered energies, anxiety, fears, difficulty achieving goals, unfocused mind, and the inability to be still. It can also manifest as isolation, lethargy, and pains within the legs, knees, hips and ankles. Another indication might be in issues with weight. When the root chakra is too open (spinning too fast), the characteristics are bullying, being overly materialistic, and self-centeredness. When it is blocked (slow spinning or not spinning at all), we experience low self-esteem, and self-destructive behaviors. Other physical imbalances may manifest as problems in the colon and with the bladder. In men, prostate problems may occur. Eating disorders may also be a sign of a root chakra imbalance.

When it is open, we feel safe and fearless. We demonstrate self-mastery and high physical energy; we become grounded, healthy and focused. We also feel good about our finances and can more easily generate money and personal assets. 

So what are some ways to balance the root chakra?

· Meditation to balance the Root Chakra. Many meditations out there can help you to concentrate healing energies to the Root Chakra area. Each Chakra is also associated with a particular sound. The root chakra is associated with the sound/mantra LAM. Meditating and chanting to LAM for even a few minutes can be beneficial to helping balance the root chakra. Listening to 396Hz frequency while meditating is also great—this is the frequency that resonates with the root chakra.

· Crystal Healing. I will talk about crystals and crystal healing in another blog/video. I love crystals immensely…and if you know me, I have probably given you a crystal at some point in our relationship. Since the root is associated with the very dense element of Earth, and crystals come from the earth, they vibrate with that energy. Getting earthy color crystals that are associated with the earth element is very helpful. Some examples are hematite, red jasper, garnet, bloodstone, tiger’s eye, and smoky quartz. Carrying these close to you and placing the gemstones on the area of your root chakra while lying down can be very beneficial to helping with alignment.

· Colors. Surround yourself with the color red. This color is most strongly associated with the root chakra. Wear red clothing. Add some red to your décor.

· Foods. Eat red foods—apples, beets, berries, and other grounding and earthy foods are also good for the root chakra.

· Reconnect with the Earth. I made a previous video/blog post on Grounding and connecting with the Earth element. Check it out to get some good tips for connecting with the earth. Just standing barefoot in the grass can be deeply grounding.

·       Move your body! I went to a workshop by Mr. Rishi once on the root chakra, and we had to dance. My mom calls it, “shaking your root chakra.” But really, get outside, take a walk, do some yoga, and get your body moving. The root is about the physical, and actually physically moving your body can be very empowering. 

Shaking my Root Chakra

· Seek therapy to heal from past issues and insecurities. I think this speaks for itself. So many people don’t even realize the sort of parental issues, generational issues, and just deep mistrust that we harbor deep within. Get professional help if you can, to address some of these issues. Healing my own relationship with my parents—seeing them as individual humans with their own issues, instead of trying to make them into who I wanted them to be, was also very helpful root chakra work for me.

· Cleaning up your financial house. This is one that a lot of people don’t like to face, and considering the events of last year, it is a hard one to face for a lot of people. There is a great book out there called, “The Richest Man in Babylon.” I will talk about this in the future, but one bit of advice was, “a bit of all you earn is yours to keep.” He mentioned that even if you earn ten cents, save one penny for yourself. As your pennies begin to accumulate, that gives you a sense of security that no one can take away. “Wealth, like a tree, grows from a tiny seed. The first copper you save is the seed from which your tree of wealth shall grow. The sooner you plant that seed the sooner shall the tree grow. And the more faithfully you nourish and water that tree with consistent savings, the sooner may you bask in contentment beneath its shade.”

·       Practice your affirmations! Here are a few: I am safe. I am financially secure. My home is safe and secure. I love my body. I have what I need. I trust myself. I love myself. I trust in the divine to provide my basic needs. I am fearless. 

I hope that this information was informative and that you can apply these in a practical manner in your life. Please let me know if anything works well for you!! Also, please feel free to drop more tips/suggestions in the comments. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may your root chakra be balanced, strong, and secure. Have a beautiful week.

Sippintea with Nat & Z

I had the great delight of being a guest on Natalie and Zarifa’s latest podcast episode!

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There is more to Astrology and horoscopes besides signs, planets and houses. So it’s time to get some deeper insights from our expert guest for this episode our friend Heather, the real-life unicorn. We mention her a lot here at Sippin T’, she is the lover of the cosmos, sunshine, books, positive thinking, the law of attraction, the deeper mysteries of life, unicorns, art, music, love, and so much more. You can visit her youtube page Celestial Goodness 1111 and her blog at https://celestialgoodness.com.
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An Introduction to the Chakras

Celestial Goodness: An Introduction to the Chakras

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As we are making our way through a time of immense cosmic change, I think it is important to have tools that can help us to stay grounded, centered, and at peace during times of great uncertainty. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/yfGZGwJaNvc

One of the tools that I utilize frequently, and that I actually think about pretty much every day is the Chakra system. Some people know about the Chakras through the practice of yoga and some people were introduced to the Chakras thanks to Aang in the Last Airbender.

Aang—The Last Airbender

I was introduced formally to the chakra system in 2014 by my friend Mr. Rishi and his family. They own the Good Luck store located in Montgomery Mall in Bethesda, Maryland. (https://goodluckprosperity.com) One of the services that the store offered pre-Covid, was that you could have an aura/chakra reading. I was initially a little skeptical, but I had a weird feeling that something was out of balance within me, I just couldn’t put my finger on it.

At the time, I was always worrying about everything—how would I pay my student loans? Was I earning enough money to take care of myself? I had also suffered a heartbreak before that I hadn’t properly healed from. I could feel the grief collected in my heart space, but I had no sense of how to move past it. Later, therapy would also help with that, but one of the most helpful tools for me during this phase of my life, was in learning about the chakra system, and then utilizing different healing modalities associated with the chakras to create more balance and overall wellbeing for myself. Mr. Rishi and his family also held numerous workshops that taught me a lot about the chakra system. I am grateful for the wisdom that they shared with me.

Indigo Aura

It is amazing how ancient tools and techniques still exist that can totally transform our lives. Elizabeth Behnke said, “There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, if we can only come to our senses and feel it.” I can guarantee you that even though it may seem New Age at times, the Chakra system is a very ancient system. They are part of a complex and ancient energy system that is believed to have originated in India.

They were mentioned in the Vedas, ancient sacred texts of spiritual knowledge dating from 1500 to 1000 BC, and they have been mentioned in ancient Buddhist texts. Some say that there are hundreds of chakras in the body. Since we are going to utilize the system commonly believed to have originated in India, we will focus on the seven primary chakras—these seven chakras are traditionally depicted as lotus flowers. I will also add that there is so much that you can study and learn, about the chakras’ that the material that I will cover on the blog and on the video will just crack the surface; I really encourage you to do your own research and see what aspects of working with the chakra system works best for you. Today I am going to give an overview of the seven chakra system, but in coming weeks, I will break each Chakra down individually.

The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all. ~ Mulan

So, you may have heard the term, “chakra” and might have wondered what they were. At the basic level, they are energy vortexes contained within the body. The word Chakra comes from the Sanskrit language and means, “wheel,” or “disk.” The chakras are like spinning wheels of energy, and they hold healing energy within. This energy is also referred to as Prana, and it is the essential and vital life force which keeps us healthy, alive, and vibrant. They run from the base of your spine up to the crown of your head. When our chakras are aligned, they help to keep us happy, healthy, vibrant, and whole. Having a blocked, overactive, or underactive chakra can lead to physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional imbalance. After my aura/chakra reading, we discovered that my heart and root chakras were not even spinning. Things were out of alignment, and those chakra points were drawing energy from the ones that were functioning properly. I could literally feel the imbalance.

Each chakra governs specific functions and has its own vibrational frequency, color, sound, and purpose. Having an understanding of the chakra system can help you in your own personal healing and manifestation journey. If your chakras are out of alignment, there are many things that you can do to help balance them. For example, you can eat foods of the color associated with the chakra, or you can wear clothes of that color. You can also engage in activities that help rebalance the chakra.

For example, dancing is a great activity, and depending on the moves can help rebalance a variety of the chakras. I remember going to an Estelle concert a few years ago. I love her music and vibe!!! She asked for volunteers to come dance on the stage. I ran up there so quickly and had a blast. Years ago, I would have felt super subconscious about my body and just being in front of people like that. When I came down from the stage, my mom said, “I guess we know whose root Chakra is working.”

Shaking my root chakra

It is very important to have a solid foundation in the root chakra. In a sense the chakras can draw energy from each other if one is imbalanced. Build a strong root, and develop the chakras working from the root to the crown. 

So just as an overview, here is a small summary of the seven chakras.

Root Chakra

The 1st chakra, the root chakra (Muladhara) is located at the base of the spine. It represents safety, security, and stability. Imbalanced attributes would be scattered energies, anxiety, and fears. When it is opened, we feel safe and fearless. We also feel good about our finances.

Sacral Chakra

The 2nd chakra is the sacral chakra (Svadhistahana). It is located below the naval, and represents creativity, sexual and sensual energies. Imbalanced attributes would be repressed creativity, sexual dysfunction, emotional isolation, and withholding intimacy.

Solar Plexus

The 3rd chakra, the solar plexus (Manipura—lustrous gem), is located below the chest. This is our source of personal power. It represents self-esteem, pleasure, will power, and personal responsibility. Imbalanced attributes would be low self-esteem, control issues, manipulation and misusing power.

Heart Chakra

The 4th chakra, the heart chakra (Anahata) is located in the center of the chest. This chakra is also the connector between the matter and spirit. The lower and upper chakras. This is the bridge between our mind, emotions, and spirit. It represents love, self-love, and it governs our relationships. Imbalanced attributes would be depression, difficulty in relationships, and lack of self-discipline.

Throat Chakra

The 5th chakra (Vishudda) is located within your throat. It represents the ability to speak and communicated clearly and effectively. Imbalanced attributes would be shyness, withdrawn, arrogance, and increased anxiety.

Third Eye Chakra

The 6th charka –the Third Eye (Anja) Chakra is located in the center of the forehead, between the eyebrows, and it represents intuition and foresight. This is the center of our intuition. It is driven by openness and imagination. Imbalanced attributes would be lack of direction and clarity.

Crown Chakra

The 7th chakra—the Crown Chakra (Sahaswara—thousand petal lotus) is located at the top of the head. It represents states of higher consciousness and divine connection. This is also the chakra of enlightenment, and the spiritual connection that we have to the divine, our higher selves, and others. Imbalanced attributes would be cynicism, disregarding what is sacred, closed mindedness and connection with spirit.

As the weeks progress, we will jump right into learning more about each chakra and different tools that we can use to help make sure that we are in alignment. 

Before we end for this week, here are some Affirmations for our Chakras. 

Chakra Affirmations

Root

–        I feel safe, secure, and peaceful

–        I trust myself

Sacral

–        I love my body—I am radiant, beautiful and strong

–        I allow myself to experience pleasure

Solar Plexus

–        I honor myself

–        I feel my own power and successful in all that I do

Heart

–        I am open to love, and I give and receive it effortlessly

– I live in balance and peace

Throat

–        I speak my truth and express it clearly

–        I easily communicate my feelings

Third Eye

–        I am connected to the divine wisdom of the universe

–        I am intuitive

Crown

–        I live in the present moment

– I am complete and I feel at one with others, nature, and the divine


Thank you for joining me here this week! I am looking forward to our journey into the Chakras. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may your Chakras be fully aligned. Thank you!

What Are We Feeding?…

Thank you for joining me in this space and on this journey, and wow what a journey it has been. I looked back recently over some of the topics that we have discussed, and I felt such gratitude to be able to share these thoughts and this information with you. As I have been sharing, I am also still learning and remembering the importance of these things topics as well. Thank you for showing up, for providing feedback, and for interacting with my dream and my vision. I really can’t tell you in words how much I appreciate it. See this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/uGpM8sXl8GU

Before we go any further, I just want to check in with you. How are you doing? You sleeping ok? Are you drinking your water? How is your breath? Are you tense? Take in a deep breath with me, and release. Deep breath and release. Ahhhhhh… Put your hand over your heart and feel the beating. You are alive. You are here. That in it of itself is a beautiful miracle. Check in with yourself periodically. It is amazing, how informative the body is about what we are feeling and experiencing. There is a lot going on in the world and in the cosmos, and more than ever…checking in with yourself and utilizing tips for self-care will prove to be lifesaving and life-changing.

So what does this year, 2021 hold for Celestial Goodness? Well, I hope to continue to provide content that uplifts your soul, content that inspires you, content that reminds you that you are absolutely loved and needed here on the planet for a time such as this. I hope to provide content that speaks to your genuine, authentic self, and that reminds you that some things and days may be hard, but you can get through it. I hope you will feel that each day is a gift, and that you will live your absolute best life with great health, prosperity, and overall amazing well-being.

Over the holiday season, I took some time off from work and pretty much everything to have some actual downtime. What is downtime for someone with a Capricorn stellium in their 6th house of work? Hmm. Little astrology joke there. Anyway, I made all of these plans for things that I was going to accomplish (reading, writing, and planning content for Celestial Goodness), and things that I would get ahead of so to say… I have a draft of my vision for the year, but I was going to sit down with 100 gel pens and make it more beautiful. (See my video/post on vision boarding). Well none of those things happened, and honestly it was lovely. I was able to rest, truly rest, and catch up with some family and friends through actual conversations, or long messages that you simply have to savor. I got a chance to dip in the sea, and that made my heart sing.

I did map out a few things that I wanted us to discuss on the blog and channel, and I was feeling pretty excited about it all. The downtime, and the mapping out of content, was just what my soul needed. I returned to my day job this past week, and hit the ground running. I caught up on things, and I felt productive. I got up early in the mornings, made my tea, greeted the day, and just was able to cross one thing after another from my “to do” list. 

On Tuesday evening, I reviewed the draft that I initially had for this week’s video—it was to be on the Chakras. And then Wednesday came. My normal day job is on Capitol Hill, and although because of the pandemic, most of us are teleworking, we are not disconnected from the things that happen at our physical duty station.

While the day started regular enough, soon we were getting one alert after another of the buildings being evacuated, suspicious packages, and everyone knew something crazy was happening on the hill. Something that wasn’t quite the norm for alerts. I wasn’t going to talk about this, the “storming of the Capitol,” but I was not prepared for the way in which those events would hijack my energy, time, and focus. Some of us watched the events unfold horrified at what we were seeing. My phone lit up with friends and family checking to make sure that I was ok. I was physically ok, but mentally? Emotionally? That remained to be seen…

There have been many conversations about the events of the day… Questions about how this could have happened? I don’t think there were any astrologers or people who follow the cosmos who were totally shocked. Something big and brazen was in the stars for the day.

In looking at the astrology of the day, the planet Mars—(the god of war)—was leaving his home sign of Aries (also the God of War in mythology). Mars and Aries both represent themes of anger, ego, desires, and action, and a fiery energy. The planet Mars moved out of the sign of Aries after an unusually long stay—Mars usually stays in a sign for six to seven weeks, it stayed in Aries for six months. Mars now headed into the sign of Taurus—the bull, and as it did, it crossed the 29th degree—a critical degree, a degree in which something wild and big was bound to happen. Astrology has helped to anchor me during trying times… to help make sense of things that don’t seem to make sense and this day was no different. Mars needed to go out with a bang.

As I felt the energies of fear, anxiety, and anger settling in across the collective, I could feel my own energies starting to deplete. I felt sick, tired, upset, and sad. I unfriended people from my social media and real life who were saying the most crude things. That too made me feel down. I love people, and I generally do not mind knowing and friending people who have a wide range of opinions, but this felt different. I can’t tell you what it felt like, just know that it was in my gut and it didn’t feel good. In discussions with some friends who were feeling similar, I said, “We may lose people, but we should never lose ourselves.”

The polarizing energy of this time means that we will have to make hard decisions about what we stand for and what we will accept in our space. For me, I have made the decision to protect my peace and my energy at all costs. I know what it means for me when I don’t. I know the emotional pain that becomes physical pain when I allow myself to be pulled into someone else’s dramatic storm. I have lost myself before, and on the journey of rediscovering myself, I promised me, that I would be true to me even if it meant letting some people go. And that is a reality that I have lived. I have let friends and family go, set up necessary boundaries, and strive for a peaceful existence. It can hurt, but we earn our places in each other’s lives. You don’t get to just be here. I don’t just feel entitled to be in anyone’s world, and if there is ever a moment someone doesn’t want me in their world, I will honor that and go in peace. Also, I don’t mean earned as in you pay me lol, but actually we are exchanging energy, love, and time. Those things matter to me.

Back to this past week, I worked on Thursday, but my soul truly wasn’t in it. I moved at what felt like a snail’s pace, and even when I did all my usual things to focus—breathing, and meditation, nothing seemed to work. I decided to take Friday off. I limited my time on social media, and I moved inward. I took a walk and as cold as it was the fresh air felt good, comforting somehow, I listened to things that uplifted my soul, I talked to a few people that I know and love, and we laughed. I laughed at one point until I actually had tears rolling down my eyes. I hugged my love, and I cooked us a yummy meal. Cooking is strangely therapeutic.

I watched some anime and the season finale to Star Trek Discovery, and I cried some more because I love that show. Such good reminders on life. There are four amazing quotes from the star of Discovery–Michael Burnham, which seem to speak to this moment. “Being afraid of everything means you learn nothing.” “The only way to defeat fear is to tell it no.” “The real world doesn’t always adhere to logic. Sometimes it is up. Sometimes it is down. Sometimes you are lost. Sometimes you are found.” “That’s how we find our way, by choosing to walk forward together.”

Commander Michael Burnham

And then after my day of self-care, I could feel myself coming back to myself. Some of us do not have the luxury of taking a day to come back to self… the world doesn’t stop for us to grieve and process, and make sense of things. Yet, I will implore us individually to not ever give into the energies of fear and hate. Each of us has a part to play, and we make the decision each day about what energy we will feed. There is a supposed Cherokee legend. I don’t know that for sure, and while it is very simplistic for me, and doesn’t take into account the importance of some elements to our shadow side, I do think it reminds us that anything in excess can be dangerous. The story goes like this: 

“One evening, an elderly Cherokee brave told his grandson about a battle that
goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace love, hope serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.” the grandson though about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “which wolf wins?” the grandfather simply replied, “the one that you feed.”

And so, what will we feed?

What am I choosing to feed? What are you choosing to feed? I told my mom recently that the way I feel about these times, last year, this year, and 2022, is that one day you are in your kitchen, and you say, man this kitchen needs to be replaced. The sink doesn’t work right, the stove might cause a fire, and so you, without any training in kitchen repair minus some YouTube videos and HDTV, decide to take a jackhammer and just rip the kitchen apart. Somewhere in the middle of all this, but far enough in where you can’t turn back, you say wow, the kitchen is torn up. I can’t go back to the way things were. And while you did what you could to do repairs, you end up calling in professionals to help fix the kitchen back. They do an amazing job because that is their craft; it is what they have been trained to do. You marvel at how amazing the kitchen looks now, and you can barely even remember the old kitchen. This is my analogy for 2020, 2021, and 2022. Change does not always look pretty. Sometimes we just know a change needs to be made. That was our instinct, to rip things up. I feel that right now, as a collective, we are somewhere in the middle of the repairs. The professionals in my mind are those who can help us navigate the storms—the therapists, the healers, among others.

We also have a role…and one day we will get up, and walk into the new kitchen. Life is born from chaos and destruction…another quote from Discovery. When crazy things happen in the world, I try to see it as a tipping point for necessary change. It may unfold slowly but it will come. In the meantime, I encourage you to take care of your peace as best as possible. Guard your energy, create healthy boundaries, and learn to say no—even if the no is to yourself. No I will not doom scroll. Not I will not engage in unnecessary arguments with people whose minds won’t be changed. No I will not let anyone pull me into their storms. Your energy is important, and if you want to see the kitchen be fully renovated, aka, if you want to see the world be better, then we have to help make it so. I think we can—together. I am hopeful and will work towards that.

From Pintrest

Thank you as always for reading (and watching) and for being here on planet Earth at a time such as this. May the stars shine brightly over your week. Take good care of yourself. Please and thank you!

A New Chapter

If you are reading this, welcome to 2021. Rainer Marie Rilke said, “And now we welcome the New Year. Full of things that have never been.” The new year really is like a blank, new page, brimming with the potential for awesomeness. Ultimately, you have the pen in your hand, and you help to write the story. What will you write this year? What will we all write together? Edith Lovejoy Pierce said, “We will open the book. Its pages blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.” You can find this week’s video here: https://youtu.be/tvE7gSQVgsg

While we think about that, I hope that you had an opportunity to release the things from 2020 that no longer serve you, to think about the lessons learned, to save the best memories of the past, and to set some new intentions for 2021. I love to approach the New Year with gratitude. First, gratitude that I have made it here. I think that each day that we get to do this thing called life is a true blessing, and it means that we aren’t quite done doing what we need to do here, whatever that is. I know people who did not make it this side of 2021 and so will we live for ourselves; we can also live for those who no longer can. For me, I believe that part of why we are all here is to use the gifts that we have been given as service to humanity, and while this does matter, I don’t think that is all there is. We are also here to enjoy life, to relish in the delicious experiences that make us human.

Second, I feel gratitude for the past experiences that have taught me so much—either about my own strengths, or about my limitations. I know when I can give a little more, but I also know by listening and paying attention to what I have learned that there are times when I need to rest and reflect. Finally, I also feel gratitude for the pure potential of what awaits us in the coming days, weeks, and months. Josiyah Martin said, “The magic in new beginnings is truly the most powerful of them all.” We never know how any year will be, how it will ultimately unfold, and although most do bring a mixture of experiences, I can only hope that they next one will be the best one yet. Alfred Lord Tennyson said, “Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering, it will be happier.” We can certainly hope…

A few years ago, I started the practice of setting a new word for the New Year—this would be a word that helped me to anchor myself in the experiences of the year, and it would also help to give the year some direction. T.S Elliot said, “For last year’s words belong to last year’s language. And next year’s words await another voice.” In previous years, I have used the words: balance, flow, vision, growth, love, and so forth. Every time that I have selected a work, the year has given me an opportunity to prove that it really was the word that I needed for that particular year. For example, once when I chose balance, I ended up working and tending to my social life more than taking care of my physical health. I ended up having a situation where I fell down the stairs, twisted up my ankle, and canceling everything that I thought was too important to cancel. I really learned that there is a time for everything under the sun—and that anything done in extremes can be dangerous to our mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Brandon Sanderson said, “Somehow, we will find it. The balance between whom we wish to be and whom we need to be. But for now, we simply have to be satisfied with who we are.” 

I think that this year for 2021, the word that I will choose is flow. This is a repeat word, but it reminds me of one of my favorite elements—water, and some of my favorite life philosophies.

Flow

Lao Tzu said, “Those who flow as life flows, know they need no other force.” I like that and this quote by Donna Goddard, “Life changes and often we just have to go with the flow not knowing its course. Things can change because there is something better or different for us and if we don’t follow our leanings then that which once seemed fine will start to feel unsatisfactory and will dismantle because it is not right for us anymore. It becomes a burden rather than the blessing it once was. We have to trust that as we were cared for in the past, we will be cared for in the future.”

And this one from Erik Pevernagie, “Let us join the flow of ethereal vibrations when love is at our fingertips and encounter the mystery and wonder of unsuspected instants. Let us dip into the marvel of the budding and the blooming spray of our dreams brightening up our path.”

I have shared a few quotes on the beauty and potential of the New Year, and here are a few more; I hope that they inspire you. 

David Bowie said, “I don’t know where I am going from here, but I promise it won’t be boring.”

Neil Gaiman said, “I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.
So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.
Make your mistakes, next year and forever.”

To follow up on that, Craig Lounsbrough said, “Packaged inside of every mistake there lays a great lesson. And while I don’t want to take the mistake into the New Year, I most certainly want to take the lesson that’s packaged inside of it.”

I never want people to feel afraid to make mistakes—because it means that you at least tried, and there is a beauty in that as well!

Rainer Maria Rillke, “And now let us believe in a long year that is given to us, new, untouched, full of things that have never been, full of work that has never been done, full of tasks, claims, and demands; and let us see that we learn to take it without letting fall too much of what it has to bestow upon those who demand of it necessary, serious, and great things.”

Nido Qubein, “Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go. They merely determine where you start.” 

Abraham Lincoln said, “The best way to predict the future is to create it.”

What do you want life to be like in this new year? Whatever it is, I am rooting for you. I hope that this is a year filled with hope, with love, and with opportunities for all of us to rise to the occasion and show the best of humanity! Also, I hope that you also get to choose a word for the year ahead, and that it helps give your year good direction, and anchors you in some amazing experiences. It is a shorter blog and video this week, but I just wanted to pop in, say Happy New Year, and give you something to think about in the coming weeks. I have some exciting content planned, and I really do appreciate your presence here. May the stars shine brightly over your week, and may it be a beautiful one indeed!

Happy New Year